"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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loverboy2003

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i have to admit i was fairly sceptical about this site amd the advise i have received, i posted a thread awhile back about a girl i work with really screwin with my head and giving me mixed messages, i ended up devoting a large amounot of my time thinking about her and paying her a lot of attention while at work, and she played it up HARD, i asked some advise from you all, most said forget about her i dont have a shot in hell, but i didn't like that approach, BUT THE NEXT ADVISE I GOT FORM MOST OF YOU WERE TO IGNORE HER FOR A WHILE, MAKE HER PAY MORE ATTENTION TO ME, that i started doing, i went to her friends house on new years, just a couple of friends there (like 8) the only reason i went was b/c she was there well when i got there she was flirting with some other chump all night ( i am pretty sure it was JUST to make me jelous, she tends to do that alot) well i got pissed and left, since then i have practecly ignored her maybe only talking to her briefly the entire day( which is a big changed from before) i noticed today she seems to pay alot more attention to me, now to get her attention i just give her strong obvious eye contact, and every time she walks by she looks at me hard and gets this cute little smile on her face and starts blushing, i dont know WHY THIS OCCURS I THINK IT IS B/C I MADE HER WORK FOR MY ATTENTION NOW, BUT EITHER WAY I HAVE ONLY YOU GUYS HERE TO THANK. LOVE THIS SITE!!!!!!!!!!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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jakethasnake

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Well done for getting her attention. But.....!


I will give you advice for when the euphoria wears off. To girls, flirting and the games behind it (like playing hard to get, chasing) is what a Playstation is to boys. It's quality entertainment. They do it to amuse themselves, for the fun of it. So even though you've piqued her curiosity, don't think for a minute that she's in love with you or anything. You're obviously greener than seaweed, so you need to read the material in the DJ Bible then work from there. Good luck on your journey.
 

CLOONEY

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Originally posted by jakethasnake
Well done for getting her attention. But.....!


I will give you advice for when the euphoria wears off. To girls, flirting and the games behind it (like playing hard to get, chasing) is what a Playstation is to boys. It's quality entertainment. They do it to amuse themselves, for the fun of it. So even though you've piqued her curiosity, don't think for a minute that she's in love with you or anything. You're obviously greener than seaweed, so you need to read the material in the DJ Bible then work from there. Good luck on your journey.
haha, couldnt have said it better myself.
 

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Don't ever let them see you shook... she with someone, don't get all cherry like and leave... stay, flirt with her friends, hell, flirt with her too, she no diffrerent to you then any of the other ladies there is what you should have thought... in any case... they love to play games, don't let them see you shook up about nuthin.
 

loverboy2003

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WOW AGAIN THIS IS WHY I LOVE THIS SITE GREAT GREAT ADVICE, this girl KNOWS i like her and by her actions and such i think she likes me, but how do i go about trying to hook this fish, she is a mind game player (like all women) she knows i hate a guy but she perposeky flirts and talks to him and while she does she will look at me with a devilish smirk, BUT once when i was obviously flirting with other girls in front of her, and making C&F jokes about how i know these girls want me later that night she expressed that she was pissed at me, and called me a fuking ****y a$$hole, and was real pissed, so is that a good thing , the fact that she got upset and ?? Jelous, does that show that she whas intrest in me?????????????? i think so or am i thinking totally WRONG??????????
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Slickster

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Don't act jealous when she talks to the other guy.

Talk to lots of other women in her presence. Make them laugh.

Be ****y.

Don't be afraid to be a jerk.

Play hard to get. Don't let her know you like her. She already knows it.

Don't obsess over just one girl.
 
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Kraken

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i dont know WHY THIS OCCURS I THINK IT IS B/C I MADE HER WORK FOR MY ATTENTION
Keep a look out for other girls at in the meanwhile. Remember, you don't need any particular one of these girls, because there's always more out there.

I'm not going trying to say 'act like you don't need her'. I'm trying to say 'you don't need her.'

When she sees this carefree attitude, you are going to stand out from the rest of the crowd that may be slaving over her.

If you like the advice the people on this forum dish out, then read the material in the DJ Bible, it's where all the essentials and basics are.
 
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