"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Five To One

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So im getting back together with an ex; I feel i need to end it with my plates.


The question I want answered is how do I end it with theses girls so they remain an option in the future for me?


Something like LJBF but its so much bullsh1t and easy to see through.

Or maybe just straight up telling the girls that im getting back with my ex is the best thing to do?

Im thinking if I tell them that its over because im getting back with my ex they will hate me but still willing to fvck me in the future if I choose to talk to them again. Its sh1tty of me but girls are sluts like that.


Anyone have any success in putting girls off for a couple months?

Or is this just wishful thinking on my part.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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jeffthechef

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hmm...i'm not sure what would happen when getting back with an ex and allt he plates...but when i went out with a girl...all her friends started to try and take me from her...so i think you might not have to worry..some will try to steal you..others will move on...but usually come back once you're single....attraction doesn't die just because you go out with your ex again...you should be fine...but don't expect them to wait for you while you're taken
 

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Man , dont be needy. If you want to be with your ex and only with her , tell the girls. It might me turn on for them . Or extremely turn off.

Anyway , whatever happens , you should not give a sh1t. You want to improve your game , to make it 10 , so even if you're without any plate , its OK because this will motivate you to get new ones.

The problem is that you're scared that if you loose these ones , youll end up alone , and because of this , youll spread bad vibes and it will only fvck up your interactions.
 

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So why do you want to be with your ex? Isn't she an ex for a reason?
 

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Well first of all you can't guarantee anything in life so there is no fix all 100% solution for you that is guaranteed to give you the result you'd like to see.

Now in my opinion your chance at getting the best results of what you want is to simply tell them that you have decided to get serious with one of your other plates and say for that reason and for the new relationship to grow you'll have to scale back if not outright refrain getting together with the plate you are telling this to.

If you'd still like to fvck these other girls on the side make that clear but also let them know that it can't be as frequent as in the past to avoid suspicion.

And for christ's sakes don't tell them that you are symping the fvck out and pressing the rewind button and going back with your ex.

Its none of their g0damned business for one thing and for another thing if they are the jilted type they will hate you regardless of whether you tell them you are getting back together with an ex or turning your focus to a new girl completely so yeah its utterly pointless to let them know you are going back to your ex like a dog that goes back and gobbles up its vomit.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Five To One

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Alright thanks for the feedback. I know theres no way to be 100% sure they wont move on. No big deal. Cant blame me for wanting to have some girls on the back burner.

And im surprised only one tryed to give me sh1t for getting back with an ex. to answer your question Gamer its because im heading to college next year so I want to be with her while I can. Its not the worst thing in the world when you have someone speical who you care about, dispite what is preached here.


This is more directed toward KontrollerX Jeffthechef and Daddy the Pimp now, im not new to the game but im new to spinning multiple plates. Not like 2 or 3 girls but 5 solid girls at one time. And something got to me after a while, I dunno if it was stress or too many emotions? Its kinda why im looking to have a girlfriend for a bit again. Did that ever happen to you when you started spinning a lot of plates? where you just sat down one night and was like dang I cant handle this anymore. I dont know if its something about my personality or something that will go away with experience and time.
 

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You took on too much than you can handle, and are now looking for a refuge in your ex.
 

Five To One

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Black suit said:
You took on too much than you can handle, and are now looking for a refuge in your ex.
ha thanks but that was pretty obvious to me already.

Im asking if other guys have felt this way in the beginning or if its just my personality. But only to those guys who know what they are accually talking about.
 

jeffthechef

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to answer your question
the only time i have ever gotten bored of spinning plates is when i never get any action from any of them...but of course that's because i don't want to close on one and leave the rest...but of course if i never close on one..i can't get anywhere deep cause most girls i go after don't do the fwb thing

so in the end, it's truly a circle of events...just like life...you simply have to go with the circle...sometimes you'll want to spin plates..sometimes a ltr...sometimes nothing...doesn't matter which as long as it's what you want
 

Five To One

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end thread.

This doesnt apply to me anymore.

Thanks anyway for the posts
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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