Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm not so much worried bout std's. She's slept with 6 guys in her life, and said she got tested for std's 3 months ago when she got a physical for her job. So i trust her on that, but do u think it's stupid pregnancy wise, not to use a condom? She's on the pill.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How long have you been with this girl, Is the relationship exclusive (monogamous)?
 

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It's a question of trust. Do you trust her to be responsible enough to take the pill every day at the same time without ever missing a day? Also, do your homework. Cigarettes and some medications can lower the effectiveness of oral contraceptives.

fwiw, I think sex with condoms is not even worth the effort, but then again I like LTRs and not ONSs. I got hooked on going without condoms in high school, and I have never used them. And I have never gotten a girl pregnant, knock on wood...
 

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Pakwah said:
I hate them too.
Didn't you guys see boyz n the hood. Lawrence Fishburne said a girl on the pill won't keep you from getting AIDS. But don't wear a condom if you want to have a kid, duh. :)
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Rastaman said:
How long have you been with this girl, Is the relationship exclusive (monogamous)?

She's definately monogomous. She's been with 6 guys before me at age 23, which i kinda don't like, but a few were in high school, so i guess that's ok. She even admitted she regretted doin it so young cuz she wasn't ready.

But anyway, theres no way in hell she's not monogomous cuz she's way too busy with work and school, and she sees me 2 or 3 times a week, not to mention she calls me twice a day.

She said she only slept with boyfriends, and never 1 night flings, and she broke up with her last bf january of 06. yet she got an std test only 3 months ago. I asked her why so long after if she wasnt having sex since january, and she said she was gettin a physical anyway, so shes always parnoid and wanted to check. I hope thats the truth. I think i beleive her, i just remember her being embarassed to tell me that she slept with 6 guys originally, so i wonder if she lowered that amount to make it sound better. And i wonder if she therefore lies about other things.

But i started this post more about the pregnancy thing. It kinda makes me nervous, that 1 percent i think is still alot.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
I'm not so much worried bout std's. She's slept with 6 guys in her life, and said she got tested for std's 3 months ago when she got a physical for her job. So i trust her on that, but do u think it's stupid pregnancy wise, not to use a condom? She's on the pill.
Problem is, standard screens DON'T test for 3/4 of the BIG FOUR H's:
HIV
Herpes
HPV
Hepatitis C

These are all viruses and incurable, condoms don't offer full protection...and herpes & HPV are EXTREMELY common.

I really think this 4H hotlist needs to be STICKIED because people are so damn ignorant about it. Unfortunately, public education doesn't do a good job of giving people a simplified rule of thumb to look out for out in the real world.
 

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DJinTraining06 said:
She's definately monogomous. She's been with 6 guys before me at age 23, which i kinda don't like, but a few were in high school, so i guess that's ok. She even admitted she regretted doin it so young cuz she wasn't ready.

But anyway, theres no way in hell she's not monogomous cuz she's way too busy with work and school, and she sees me 2 or 3 times a week, not to mention she calls me twice a day.

She said she only slept with boyfriends, and never 1 night flings, and she broke up with her last bf january of 06. yet she got an std test only 3 months ago. I asked her why so long after if she wasnt having sex since january, and she said she was gettin a physical anyway, so shes always parnoid and wanted to check. I hope thats the truth. I think i beleive her, i just remember her being embarassed to tell me that she slept with 6 guys originally, so i wonder if she lowered that amount to make it sound better. And i wonder if she therefore lies about other things.

But i started this post more about the pregnancy thing. It kinda makes me nervous, that 1 percent i think is still alot.

Is the relationship a MUTUALLY AGREED committed and monogamous relationship? It was not clear with your answer.

Anyway, I have had intercourse with married women that to the public eye, were "loyal".

I mean...no everyone is busy 24 hours a day. A woman can be taken the same public transportation that I am or she could take her lunch in the same park or cafe that I might be frequenting. It does not take long to start rapport. And now with the internet? Heck, even easier.

All it takes is going to a desolated parking lot during lunch time (or after work) for a quicky. Being there and done that.
 

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wayword said:
Problem is, standard screens DON'T test for 3/4 of the BIG FOUR H's:
HIV
Herpes
HPV
Hepatitis C

These are all viruses and incurable, condoms don't offer full protection...and herpes & HPV are EXTREMELY common.

I really think this 4H hotlist needs to be STICKIED because people are so damn ignorant about it. Unfortunately, public education doesn't do a good job of giving people a simplified rule of thumb to look out for out in the real world.
You are correct...that's why I took the standard test...PLUS had the HIV test and proved that I am vascinated against the Hepatitis C.

I think some VDs are so bad that you might as well be dead.
 

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6 persons out of 10 transmit AIDS to their partner because they don't know themselves...

Read that again.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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