Not trying to impress her

[inzone50]

So i agree with the theory that women are turned off by nice guys that try to IMPRESS them by buying them jewelery, telling them they are beautiful, buying them flowers, chocolate, writing poems etc...

However, i think its not the flowers that turn her off its the vibe she gets that he isn't good enough and he needs to buy her things to impress her correct?

BUT what if you are doing it to be romantic? What if i want to buy my women flowers to surprise her, write her a poem so she feels loved. so she can brag to her friends about it?

Please note, this i my girlfriend and not a women i'm trying to **** and impress...

I don't think it is AFC to do this. A masculine man can do this... and be viewed as a nice guy.

Views/thoughts

 

[backbreaker]

the only time flowers are prohibited to be used on a first date are

1) Rose pedals in the bathtub

2) Rose pedals in the bed.

either one of thoose I'm fine with.

Being romantic is all about you. It has nothing to do with what you buy her. I don't have to buy you **** to show you how bad I want to get in your pants. my look, my kino, my words tell that all to well.

 

[inzone50]

this is my girlfriend of 4 months...

so its AFC if I buy her flowers just because i want to treat her and she can show it off to her parents?

even though i'm not doing it to impress her just to make her feel nice.

 

[backbreaker]

hav eyou had sex yet?

again, if you think you have to buy her flowers to make her feel nice.. that's the issue right there, not the flowers per say

but again, have you had sex yet?

 

[inzone50]

Yes.

Its not for the sex, she gives that whenever i want.

 

[backbreaker]

have you bought her anything in the past?

 

[inzone50]

Flowers once, box of chocolates once... thats it.

 

[backbreaker]

no

don't do it.

you used your once chance.

It's strict and it may no make sense to you now, but trust me on this one. women have to earn material things. just keeping someone around for 4 months isn't earning anything.

 

[inzone50]

k, so when do i know she earned it?

she gave me a bj and swallowed, she said i was the only one she swallowed with. she fell a sleep on me after i ****ed her. so thats good signs.

 

[Interceptor]

Generally speaking women candidly are not impressed with the typical Romantic gift ideas like flower, chocolate ,etc.
They are more impressed and want more of the romance, attention, and affection on a consistent basis.
Basically, they are more impressed by what you do, the "little things" , for them, rather than big, obvious gestures.
It's not AFC to buy her flower, etc for a longtime girlfriend. But it does stick out if you're not being consistent with the attention.
Gifts are best on expected days, like Christmas, Birthdays, and Valentine's.
But you can be spontaneous and give her a gift out of a rigid schedule like the above. But never overdo it. It can make you look a little supplicating.
Go ahead and do it, but don't overdo it, and pay more attention on your consistency.
Women will rarely complain that you don't buy her flowers, etc if you keep her needs satisfied consistently.

 

[backbreaker]

she gave me a bj and swallowed

damn man you make a good case

you are doing good.. but usually I believe the exact opposite of what a womans says

I have never swallowed before

there is no better source of protein the sperm!



you want to keep a woman on her toes.. buying her flowers and **** isn't a way to keep her on her toes.

 

[inzone50]

damn man you make a good case

you are doing good.. but usually I believe the exact opposite of what a womans says



there is no better source of protein the sperm!



you want to keep a woman on her toes.. buying her flowers and **** isn't a way to keep her on her toes.

not saying swallowing deserves flowers, but trust me on this. that was her first time swallowing.

 

[inzone50]

but i take your advice an i won't buy her anything.

 

[inzone50]

Generally speaking women candidly are not impressed with the typical Romantic gift ideas like flower, chocolate ,etc.
They are more impressed and want more of the romance, attention, and affection on a consistent basis.
Basically, they are more impressed by what you do, the "little things" , for them, rather than big, obvious gestures.
It's not AFC to buy her flower, etc for a longtime girlfriend. But it does stick out if you're not being consistent with the attention.
Gifts are best on expected days, like Christmas, Birthdays, and Valentine's.
But you can be spontaneous and give her a gift out of a rigid schedule like the above. But never overdo it. It can make you look a little supplicating.
Go ahead and do it, but don't overdo it, and pay more attention on your consistency.
Women will rarely complain that you don't buy her flowers, etc if you keep her needs satisfied consistently.

what do you mean by little things?

 

[backbreaker]

ot saying swallowing deserves flowers,

but I am

just kidding.. it' something about a woman swallowing your man juice that makes everything worth while. I mean I get no pleasure out of it at all... actually I do. I don't know why. just don't try to kiss me afterwards.. or the next day.

 

[Dannyrt34]

It's alright to do nice things, as long as you make few and far between.

Why is it that everyone looks when they see a ferrari or lamborghini driving down the road? It's not something you see everyday

Now if you seen ferraris all over the place, you'd eventually lose interest.

I think you can figure out the metaphor.

The more rare you do these nice things, the more 'special' they are to her.

 

[backbreaker]

very well said Danny

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

I've been with my girlfriend for 3 months. I only gave her two things.
1. Hand-picked flowers from a neighbors yard..
2.A $7 braclet at a festible.

Once in a blue moon I don't think its a bad idea to give your girlfriend a little gift thats inexspensive. But, if you don't get sh!t in return its not worth it.

Or only buy her something for like her birthday,christmas...

 

[inzone50]

haha from your neighbors yard! nice!!

 

[backbreaker]

don't even buy her **** for her bithday unless you have been dating for a while.

I don't give a fvck if it's your birthday.

a good rule of thumb that has never let me down.. if it were my birthday, would she buy me anything? If I honestly can say yes, I have no problem. if I even think she might not, she has work to do