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Not tonight i'm [insert stupid excuse here]

Ok, no man likes to hear those words when he wants some action, but when and if she does, how do you end up coming out on top or have her wanting you?

I'm in a LTR and my gf seems to be slowly loosing interest in sex. I stop round her house nearly every night (yeah this is probably the route of the problem) and we have gone from havin sex twice nearly every day, to once a day, to 4 times or less a week, id say never less than 2 times. Is this normal or should I be concerned? She has also come lazy with bjs and handjobs, but i stupidly continue to go down on her.

Before havin this gf i allways used to have fcuk buddies n just next them when i was bored, or when their interest seemed to drop. But I ideally i don't wanna do that this time round.

A good friend of mine once told me that women have sex when they want, men have sex when they can. Is this just the way it is, women have power with sex and they know how to use it.

So im guess im asking how do you go about reversing this power and allways have sex when you want it. Also when there is a time when she really does not want it how should a man act to still remain powerful and not feel or show that he is concerned by the rejection?

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*shrug* maybe you have become boring and predictable

Maybe she thinks you are only using her for sex, and that is the only reason you stop by.

It sounds like you are spending too much time with her if you are seeing her every day. Give her some time to miss you - and your d!ck.
 

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I was in a LTR with this girl, when went from a good sex life to once a week and sometimes once a month. She said it was because i treated her like **** and all i care about was sex. I told her i wouldn't treat you like **** if we ****ed more often. but anyways It can get worst man.
 

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OneEyedJack said:
*shrug* maybe you have become boring and predictable

Maybe she thinks you are only using her for sex, and that is the only reason you stop by.

It sounds like you are spending too much time with her if you are seeing her every day. Give her some time to miss you - and your d!ck.
I agree, you are being AFC by going to her house every single freaking day of the week. Thats way too much time to spend w GIRLFRIEND. Also how long did you think sex was gonna last every day twice a day.... Thats a bit too much IMO and i could see why she would think you are only using her for sex.

Try this, Dont come to her house everyday, maybe twice a week. Dont ask or initiate sex. When she starts to initiate sex with you tell her no you are tired or not tonight baby. This will probobly be hard but trust me it will pay off. She is going to start wondering why you are not begging her for sex anymore, maybe you are not attracted to her anymore. She might think you are getting it somewhere else too, so she will try very hard to look good for you and make you want her. Trust me thats how girls work. You will turn the tables around that way. If by any chance this doesnt work than she is probobly not intersted in you anymore, most likely because you were too needy by visiting her every day. It could also mean that she is getting her fix somewhere else and it might be a time to NEXT her ass.

But srsly stop visiting your gf every day, even talking to gf on the phone every day is AFC...
 

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Yeah thats what im worried about it getting worse. Need to change things now before things get any worse. If it gets too bad though I willl just Next her. The worst thing is that the more she turns down sex the more you want it and her lol.

N yeah she has said to me before that she feels that all im after is sex. Not true. But I am a male and need my sex!
 

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I'd of made it clear to her before even getting into a LTR that you have a high sex drive, so if she can't keep up an LTR isn't going to work out. Now your in a lame spot. I say your options now are to go ahead and talk to her about it to get her a$$ in gear or let her go and go back to your old lifestyle which sounds a lot more fun than then LTR your in.
 

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Have the courage to do what's right for you to be happy rather than bottling up resentment because the situation is not going the way you want it to. Accept that sometimes things must change. Play life by lifes rules and you'll enjoy yourself again very soon.
 

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In my experience. When, I first started dating a girl we would fvck all the time. After a few months it slowed down. Don't worry it is normal.
 

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g188 said:
So im guess im asking how do you go about reversing this power and always have sex when you want it.
Cheers
DTB and get some new tail.
 

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Rhoto said:
DTB and get some new tail.

Do you think dumping her and getting with new girls could cause her to want you and your d1ck back or just make her hate you more?


You would have to be clear about why your breaking up with her. It would keep the thought process easier for her, less the chance she gets confused and frustrated.

"If I want him back all I have to do is show him I am willing to put out more"


If you meant something to this girl I can see her wanting you back with a passion following a breakup. I can see some benifits to this, as you would get a break from her to fvck whoever you have been putting off and would show her clearly who has the upperhand in the relationship.

If not then oh well, your single again.
 

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g188 said:
Yeah thats what im worried about it getting worse. Need to change things now before things get any worse. If it gets too bad though I willl just Next her. The worst thing is that the more she turns down sex the more you want it and her lol.

N yeah she has said to me before that she feels that all im after is sex. Not true. But I am a male and need my sex!

If it gets worse, you've already been nexted. Stop now while you are still ahead. All you have to do at this point is back off and leave wanting more.
 

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this story is one of the reasons i stay single and spin many plates.
 

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OneEyedJack said:
*shrug* maybe you have become boring and predictable

Maybe she thinks you are only using her for sex, and that is the only reason you stop by.

It sounds like you are spending too much time with her if you are seeing her every day. Give her some time to miss you - and your d!ck.
Funny how feminism always makes it the mans fault.. what if she is F'ing other dudes and is not into you anymore just because she is s!ut???
 

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g188 said:
Not tonight i'm [insert stupid excuse here]

Ok, no man likes to hear those words when he wants some action, but when and if she does, how do you end up coming out on top or have her wanting you?

Cheers
You need to psych her out and tell her those thing=s before she tells it to you and of course for it to work you will have to be getting PU$$Y form somewhere else.... Just as she is getting D!CK FORM SOMEWHERE ELSE...

Women always want sex but they dont always want it with you!!!!
 

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DonS said:
You don't stop spinning plates once you get into an LTR; in fact, this is when you need to spin the most plates. She senses that the balance of power has shifted to her and she is using this new found power. But, if you were nailing a couple other chicks at the same time, what would you care how much your LTR put out? You wouldn't; and she would sense that you didn't care and she would start putting out more. And for FK's sake, stop hanging out with her EVERY DAY. She has you right where she wants you: each and every day begging for a treat to which she hands one out every once in a while.
"I'm Tizzle and I support this post" :cool:

Anyways, I went the thru same **** the OP is going thru in my last relationship(18months long). Had sex a lot > things slowed down > it got to me > sex stopped for a week and a half > then magically started back up when i acted like it didnt matter anymore..

OP you seem to be doing the mirror image of what i was doing.. hanging out everyday, etc...

You know what i got out of it? A kid that i thought was mine.. Find out 3 months after birth, that during that week and a half period with no sex she cheated on me and the kid that i got attached to, was actually not mine. Now going thru the process of getting my name off the birth certificate...
 

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g188 said:
.... she feels that all im after is sex. Not true. But I am a male and need my sex!
"If that's all I wanted I wouldn't be exclusive with one girl. You want an exclusive relationship don't you?"

If she can't carry her end then get out, it won't get better. She's trying to starve you into a more committed state and that's not the way to get into such a place; it trains her to cut you off as a way to get what she wants, you want to train her for the opposite.
 

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The trick is stop having sex before bed.

If you always have sex before bed it becomes a routine, a chore. Switch it up, make it exciting. After doing dishes, while watching tv, meet on your lunch break for a "nooner".

If she says not tonight, than make her promise it in the morning. It'll wake you up.
 

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DonS said:
A lot of posters re-hash what they've read elsewhere, but posts like this come from tried and true experience. And it even isn't what it says, it's the mindset.
It also underlines the value of a good, well trained (for lack of a better term) LTR if you have one. A good woman *IS* hard to find particularly here in the US, so if you find one that is willing and able to carry out her role in the relationship she's valuable and deserves to be cherished.

Everyone, even us guys, needs a little tuneup from time to time, but many women are programmed to think they crap pure platinum and can do nothing wrong. Finding one that is inclined to take correction as needed is really a nice life event.

Sadly I suspect many of those type end up with clueless men who then ruin them and make them both unhappy messed up people. Yet another reason to get a young one.
 
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