"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Not this again!!

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Okay so today I'm just standing there at work when my summer fling(aka manager's daughter) walks in with her best friend to the department I was working in. Quick recap on how things ended: she started to lose interest and the last 2 times I called she said she couldn't talk and would call me back(which she never did) So today was the 1st time we've had any contact in about a month. Things were going great- I was pretty much over her and about to hook up with this new girl at work. We just talked. She acted like it hadn't been a month since we last talked. So what is she trying to do? I thought she had moved on. Also we talked for about 20 minutes(at leat it was in person this time LOL) Then her mom(aka my manager) came in and they had to go out of town. They said bye and as they walked away she said"Call me". Does this mean she wants me again or what? I really don't want to get back into this BS since it took me so long to get over her and I don't know what the he!! she wants.Need input pleaseAlso while we were talking I made sure I acted disinterested and bored(like I was over her and didn't want to talk to her)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I think you need to talk to her about what shes feeling- If you think that she was flirting with you "call me" etc, then chances are shes interested in you.

If you want to get involved again, then she needs to understand that she cant mess you around like she did the first time.
You may need to lay some "ground rules" with her.

IMO, If you think youll get even more hurt this time round, then dont bother.
 
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Yeah she was definitly flirting she came to the store just to see me-She said some other workers told her what part I was working in. Also she said to call het which I really dont see the point in since thats what she said before and look how well that turned out.
 
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Shes definately interested- although, (i assume), she was just as interested the first time round...

If you think that you could have a positive relationship with her then I'd say go for it- otherwise, I'd say that she sounds dangerous. Chances are, she hasnt changed scince last time, and you'll may just end up in exactly the same position as you are in now, 2 months down the line.

You mentioned another girl at work- IMO, concentrate on furthering your relationship with her.

Good luck, keep us posted!
 
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keep spitting out the ****y&funny comments....and DONT call her...it will make her wonder why..which always sparks their interest...

And BTw check out some of the other threads like this because their is osme good info

(look at the bottom of the first page, or the 2nd in the topics)
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I slightly disagree. I've been in her shoes. When confronted with someone you dropped stone cold,

you get nervous and have a nervous reaction.


And depending on how you react- many people will flirt with you "just so that it isn't AKWARD". :down:

Think about more before you go and start calling her again.... who knows... it could be worth it... or not. I'm not God.
 
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She was flirting with you. She was also testing you to see how dominant she was over you to see if she could control you. Even, she tested you to see if your that type of desperate and always available kind of guy aka "nice" guy. Basically, have a life, and whatever you do, do not CALL HER. Give her the gift of wondering about you.
 
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Originally posted by GirlInTheHat
I think you need to talk to her about what shes feeling- If you think that she was flirting with you "call me" etc, then chances are shes interested in you.

If you want to get involved again, then she needs to understand that she cant mess you around like she did the first time.
You may need to lay some "ground rules" with her.

IMO, If you think youll get even more hurt this time round, then dont bother.
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DonT DO THIS!!
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by trans_am17
What do you suggest?
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I suggest you move the fvck on.

Like I and others have been telling you to do for over a month now.

this is getting to be sad.
 
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