Not the traditonal situation...

[G Rambo34]

ok. it finally happened, something good happened to me. my string of bad luck is finally over. but i need you're help with this next situation to ensure sucess. heres the deal. i met this girl tonight. this was the 2nd time i seen her, but the first time we spoke. we flirted, i did some Kino, smiled and tested her alittle bit. anyway all went well. i had to leave the party and told her to walk me to my car. she did, and then i told her i had a good time talking to her, and she said she did too. i got her number, she puts her full name in my phone, and i leave. great, couldnt ask for anything more.
But the thing is its kinda complicated, i dont know what to do from here. you see the thing is she was hooking up with my best friend. nothing more than that, just hooking up. she wanted more, he didnt, and he recently ended it. shes taking him to her prom and there still friends. in fact, he told me that hes done with her and that i should even go as far as to hook up with her. but the thing is, im not sure if i should wait 2 days to call, as that may be too soon. i like her and i got the vibe that she liked me, she DID give me her number. anyway its not like they were in a serious relationship or anything, just hooked up for month. he told me to go for it and that he wouldnt mind. but im just worried that it might be too soon for her. should i call her up in two days or not? i Dont want to go through the internet at first because it hasnt worked for me in the past. what should i do here guys? I want to call her up and ask her on a date on saturday night, and i dont think its too soon, and she IS the type to go out on dates. what should i do?

 

[ARrocket]

Call her in 2 days and ask her. Don't worry about it....you'll be fine

 

[schttrj]

heres the deal, lemme ask u to imagine a situation (though remember we are men and they are women so some difference in teh circuitry),

u meet a girl

u both went along well and had a great chemistry

u started to like her but she said she doesnt want to get into a relationship or just want a friend at the moment

she still continues to have that same chemistry (even light hearted flirting) with u

u feel like wow, she is within my reach but i still cant touch her!

what would u feel at the moment? if she is really hot, u would be crazily be in love with her or at least try a bit harder to get her. I bet my last buck on it!

now at this moment, a equally good girl who is a friend of the girl starts to show some interest in u while u r still feeling the attraction fro her friend

how would u react? u like it but u r not interested and the more she tries, the more u r turned off until even if she si HB 10, u dont return her phn calls.

are u with me?

this is the situation u r in at the moment.

she likes u because u r ur friend's friend. that gives some value and u were interesting on the first meeting and i hope u didnt showed ur attraction to her, u havent activated her defense shields, so she gives u her number. am i being really pessimistic here, guys? i think i m trying to be a realist here. what u got to do at the moment is try and read her and her chemistry with ur friend. ur friend is not interested in her doesnt mean she is not interested in him, simple logic. for the time being, just behave like ur friends friend not her friend of course and create the chemistry or vibe between u and her. no askin about her about what she feels for ur friend. go out with her on a date but treat her like she is ur female buddy but u r not her female buddy, u get me? keep doing this. u need to reach the level of ur friends chemistry with her and overreach it and she will give u signs of interest and then u make ur move. and make sure of one thing, act and do everything different from ur friend and be the wild adventurous guy but dont ever make a move until she is ready. and also dont be too much available to her. keep in an optimum balance, u get me? good.

 

[WesCottII]

You'd never hang yourself.

Stop being so indesicive and call her, ask her out.

 

[G Rambo34]

i never thought id actually say this, but i have a good/bad feeling about this. i called her up and we talked, she gave me her sn. everything is good now. infact, my confidence is soaring through the roof, and i feel on top of my game. so much to the extent that i feel like i can do better and dont even want to deal with her now. i know i sound like a dbag, but i just feel like there might be something better out there, idk why. im not sure what to do. i want to ask her on a date, but i really dont know if i want to. what would u guys do in this situation?

 

[schttrj]

ask her out!

 

[G Rambo34]

i guess i will. but i have never felt this confident with girls before. u dont think i should just try and get another girl

 

[Teh_Wolf]

dude you can go on a date with her, plus also game other girls. but its good, it means your upgrading

 

[aifia]

actually i have a bad feeling. your friend seems to be gaming the girl by pushing her away. even if you do get with her, who knows, she might be hooking up with your friend secretly

 

[schttrj]

spot on, aifia! i think the same too. dude, u need to be careful of that and move on to the next or think u have a stronger game than ur friend, go try her. well, if i were u, just my opinion, i would not have given up, this is a challenge and fun. i would have kept on dating other women and taken them seriously but this one, i would have still gone for to see what level my game is.