Roly
Senior Don Juan
Alright guys, Im pretty young for this forum, and there's no way in hell im ready to get married, but I found this topic to be interesting. I was given this article in my composition class, some parts I agree but I feel this had a feministic tone to it. What do you guys think?
Not the Marrying kind:
"A man who claimed had been married more than twenty times was on a talk show. Someone asked him what was wrong with him that he could not keep any of his wives. He said each time he married he thought he had found Mrs. Right, but that something always went wrong. The man had no idea that he was probably the kind of person who should never get married. There are people who should never get married.
Selfish people should not get married. People who are selfish are unhappy whenever they cannot have their own way. They always want the most and best of everything for themselves. Marriage partners have to share everything. Married people must also respect each other's feelings. Selfish people never try to understand the feelings of others. They believe they should always do and say whatever they want. Being selfish means being only for one's self. Being married means being for one's self and for one's partner. Selfish people are just not the type to be happily married.
Immature people should also remain single. Immature people usually do what seems fun or interesting at the time. They are not ready to face the responsiblities of being adults. It is almost impossible to depend on an immature person for anything. Marriage cannot last, however, unless both partners can depend on each other. Immature people often act without thinking about the consequences. They can get themselves and their mates into big trouble. For example, many immature people cannot manage money or credit, so they lose their homes and everything they own. Marriage is based on trust, but immature people cannot be trusted to make decisions or to carry out plans. Anyone who has not rown up, regardless of age, is not ready to get married.
Marriage is for people who do not know how to communicate. Marriage Parnters have to be honest to understand each other. Good communicators are willing to try to talk things out. They know how to listen to their partner's ideas and how to respect the feelings of others. Marriage counselors have found that many abusive people are not good communicators. They scream, pouts, and uses physical violence is not able to live in peace with another person.
Jelous people should not marry. People who are jelous never believe anyone could love them. But love would not be enough for the jealous person anyway. Jealousy makes people want to own their mates the way someone owns a car or pet. Some jealous people, especially men, are violent. Some keep their mates locked up or follow them everywhere. The mate of a jealous person could not have a moment's happiness. That is why jealous people should not marry.
Before individuals think of getting married, they should understand themselves. If they are selfish, immatuer, unable to communicate or jealous, they should not get married without taking the time and effore to make some very big personality changes. On the other hand, some people should never get married at all."
Not the Marrying kind:
"A man who claimed had been married more than twenty times was on a talk show. Someone asked him what was wrong with him that he could not keep any of his wives. He said each time he married he thought he had found Mrs. Right, but that something always went wrong. The man had no idea that he was probably the kind of person who should never get married. There are people who should never get married.
Selfish people should not get married. People who are selfish are unhappy whenever they cannot have their own way. They always want the most and best of everything for themselves. Marriage partners have to share everything. Married people must also respect each other's feelings. Selfish people never try to understand the feelings of others. They believe they should always do and say whatever they want. Being selfish means being only for one's self. Being married means being for one's self and for one's partner. Selfish people are just not the type to be happily married.
Immature people should also remain single. Immature people usually do what seems fun or interesting at the time. They are not ready to face the responsiblities of being adults. It is almost impossible to depend on an immature person for anything. Marriage cannot last, however, unless both partners can depend on each other. Immature people often act without thinking about the consequences. They can get themselves and their mates into big trouble. For example, many immature people cannot manage money or credit, so they lose their homes and everything they own. Marriage is based on trust, but immature people cannot be trusted to make decisions or to carry out plans. Anyone who has not rown up, regardless of age, is not ready to get married.
Marriage is for people who do not know how to communicate. Marriage Parnters have to be honest to understand each other. Good communicators are willing to try to talk things out. They know how to listen to their partner's ideas and how to respect the feelings of others. Marriage counselors have found that many abusive people are not good communicators. They scream, pouts, and uses physical violence is not able to live in peace with another person.
Jelous people should not marry. People who are jelous never believe anyone could love them. But love would not be enough for the jealous person anyway. Jealousy makes people want to own their mates the way someone owns a car or pet. Some jealous people, especially men, are violent. Some keep their mates locked up or follow them everywhere. The mate of a jealous person could not have a moment's happiness. That is why jealous people should not marry.
Before individuals think of getting married, they should understand themselves. If they are selfish, immatuer, unable to communicate or jealous, they should not get married without taking the time and effore to make some very big personality changes. On the other hand, some people should never get married at all."
