Not the best prom...

[JerryFl08]

Bear with me guys i havn't been on here for awhile and this is somewhat of a long post, but i need some advice...

Recently i've been talking with this girl for awhile, i asked her to prom an she agreed to go, she aint from my school..okay now this girl is like a virgin on alllll aspects,, she's never had a bf, never kissed, never anything!! from what i had heard she dumped a diff guy that asked her to his prom..it was pretty obvious she liked me and from the start i knew i was definately gonna go for a kiss close and possibly even further when i dropped her off..

Now to explain how my prom went:

i was going with her, i'll call her M and my friend was going with her friend, we'll call her A
My friend and i were waiting for them at his house.. when they came i took M out to go and eat.. We were having a good time laughing talking about past stuff that we had done, and making fun of our waiter cuz he was pretty dum..After that we went around cruising, and she was picking songs on my ipod to play on the radio.. Still laughing an what not, we got all caught up that i ended up a couple cities away..

My friend called said they were gonna go to prom already so we decided to head back as well.. It was all good we took pictures, and her since she's extremly shy if i havnt mentioned before, didnt want to do one dance, she kept saying she was going to get embarrassed and that she didnt know how.. i told her idk how either but i at least want to do once dance,, i kept trying to convince her and began trying to sweet talk her but she never budged, i was actually getting kinda annoyed and i was almost forcing her to get up but she never did,, she said she felt bad and it nearly looked like she was going to cry..it got to the point where prom ended, and you could tell i was upset :/..when we were walking out i told her to hold my hand and we did, then we took some pictures outside..

After that we walked to my car and i told her to hold my hand again but she said, "no, i feel bad". At this point i was like ahhh crap i messed up, she probably just wants to be friends now fck...i introduced her to my parents dunno if that was a good idea but it's cuz i had to go home an pick something up since we were going to a friends lil party. After we all ended up going to my friends with a couple of other people there..We were there for awhile, nothing really happened i showed her aroun his house since it was brand new..

Then A's sister called her and said she needed to be home already and that she would pick her up at M's house..So i decided i would take them home.. M didnt look all that happy when i was taking her home as she was sitting on the front seat with me. When i got there i wanted to kiss M but her friend was just right behind us and as soon as i parked both of them just said byeeee...

The next day i txted M saying "hey i know i was kinda upset about the whole dance thing, but i don't want you feeling bad about it"...Now again idk if that was such a good idea, sounds reall wussyish...We continued txtin throughout the day but it was like realllly gay,, one word replies, she sempt so uniniterested but idk if she was just trying to make me feel bad or if she really did just become uninterested.. i didnt talk with her at all today, as i figure i should just leave her alone about the whole thing..

Soo..What do you all think,, did she just friend me just like that or you all think she still feels attracted to me, and what do you all think i should do about this situation..please help unfortunately i got my emotions all mixed up right now,, sometimes i'll say i just won't talk to her anymore and other times i'm like ahhhh i want to talk with her!,, i just unfortunately don't know what to do...Please help..

NOTE: her nickname for me was "jerry the jerk" which i thought was super cute, when we were in my car she played that Your A Jerk song, and she said look its your theme song!,,she's super adorable,,i'll post a pic of her

http://i137.photobucket.com/albums/q...5-01223144.jpg

 

[Klaus]

Virgins are virgins for a reason.

Hell, I didn't even dance at a club or anything till my 21'st (alcohol helps immensely), but who the hell could mess up even a slow dance.

Basically the girls a dud, even if you don't find one that doesn't put out right away at the very least find one that enjoys life a little bit more.

Hand holding shouldn't be forced or mentioned, it should come natural without even thinking about it, next time if you notice yourself even thinking it, either there is no progression and you just want it to happen more than she does OR your moving too quickly.

Your best bet from what I've read, stop talking to her, if she really does feel that bad about it, she will find a way to rectify the situation and try to make amends by trying to make plans with you, but don't stop living it up for her.

 

[JerryFl08]

For the most part I definately agree with what you're saying..I do kinda want it to happen more than she does.. But I kinda wanta talk about it with, for all I know it may not be the best idea, but idk I just want to talk about it with her..I hate that I know she was attracted to me before we actually got to prom and now just because of that I don't think she has that feeling anymore..the fact that I got her to go to prom, I thought was definately a big step for her..As I was saying though I do kinda wanta talk about it with her though, if she says she wants to be friends thenn :/ I guess I'll just move on...Do you think its a good idea though? To just talk wit her about it? My problem is that now I'm actually lookin for a relationship rather than jus goin out, hooking up with other girls an continuing that routine.. unfortunately I really really do like this girl, but It just shows that I'm human..Sooo do you all think I should talk about it with her?

 

[JerryFl08]

thoughts??? anyone??

 

[Klaus]

Just don't get stuck forever on it, for that reason I usually date at least a couple women to see how much momentum I build with one as opposed to the other.

There are some girls that will sit on their V-card most of their lives, but for most of us adults here, we'd rather not get roped into marriage without finding out what shes all about first.

I still think you bombed at the hand holding statement instead of changing venues or just leaving to a place she was more comfortable in, and then in the text message.

The ball is in her court, and I think you already gave yourself away, when people ask what do you think, they are generally trying to already find a second similar answer to what they already know is true.

You can't get better at a game if you keep playing the same players, try some new ones, you'll get better at it with time.

 

[JerryFl08]

You can't get better at a game if you keep playing the same players, try some new ones, you'll get better at it with time.

very true...
but yea i talked with her,, i got friendzoned,,i'd have to admit i had oneitis on her :/...she had said "anyways why with me? i'm not even that cool haha and theres not much special about me i dont have any hidden talents or anything...its just right now i have other stuff to focus on in my own little world in my opinion my love life can wait for a while longer"... she said she just had a crush on me, but never really had strong feelings for me... so yea that's that,,time to move on

 

[sodbuster]

She's still a 12 year old girl mentally. She wants a BF in her imagination[jonas brothers] that will never happen,so she can have a BF-but none of the complications involved with ACTUALLY having one. IF she doesn't think she's good enough for you[the whole why me speech],she isn't.

 

[CarlitosWay]

very true...
but yea i talked with her,, i got friendzoned,,i'd have to admit i had oneitis on her :/...she had said "anyways why with me? i'm not even that cool haha and theres not much special about me i dont have any hidden talents or anything...its just right now i have other stuff to focus on in my own little world in my opinion my love life can wait for a while longer"... she said she just had a crush on me, but never really had strong feelings for me... so yea that's that,,time to move on

What a crock of ****, some chics will say this kind of crap and guarantee you'll see her ass making out/dating some guy soon.

You move on, keep building yourself up to be the right MAN and focus on other girls, put on them sunglasses and walk with your chest held high and sun gleaming on your face. Your time is too valuable, don't be surprised if after you do what I tell you and you're going out having fun with other girls and this chic stars developing emotions for you. Yet **** it, you will have moved on by then, it feels good to tell a girl who had her opportunity "Nope too late now hun, you had your chance"

 

[JerryFl08]

Yea I know carlitos, ur first sentence was exactly what I thought when she sent me that..I'm moving on for sure, I'll admit I am havin a bit of a hard time getting over it, but then I realize all she is is a drag, she may be cute, but she ain't any fun obviously..ruined my prom,, an I wasted too much time on her, that ends now..if I do for some reason get into a situation where I do talk with her..I'm not gonna care, just treat her like she's any other girl..which I shoulda done in the first place..if she for sum reason says she misses me or whatever, I'll give her a hard time, tell her why should I even bother going out with her,,wasted my time ruined my prom..give me ONE reason why I shoul evem consider going out with you...I'll move on start talking with other girls, possibly go to some parties and see how that goes..I got college to look forward to now and I'm sureeee there will be plentyyy of girls for me to have FUN with.