"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Not sure where I stand with a girl...

Poppy Stills

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Hi, I'm a little confused by a girl I'm kinda dating at the moment, usually I can read signs but I think I need a little advise on this one.

We met online and got chatting where she told me she just got out of a relationship...with a girl. But now she likes boys. Okay. New for me, but let's see.

So we meet and chat and have a decent time but she doesn't speak much, rarely asks me questions about my life, never pays me any compliments (not saying I need a bunch of compliments but when there's nada...like ever...even though I give her some...) and on the occasion while we're walking around the city she's expressed interest in going to a gay bar. When I asked is it because she wants to meet a woman she replies with 'no, there's more men there than women anyway.'

So I start thinking that she may see me a friend to hang out with, maybe even a wingman. So in a bar on valentines day I start making some moves, like long eye-contact, I ask if she's seeing anyone etc etc. She responds positively (after a few drinks) her body language turned toward me, she even puts on lip gloss in the toilet (all the signs that tell me a girl is interested.) So at the train station I say goodbye, about to give her the first kiss but she rapidly kisses me on the cheek and rushes away saying bye. Okay.

I text her when she's home, say goodnight and put a x at the end (first time doing this). She says goodnight but no x.This morning she texts me 'good morning sleepy head' and we set plans to go out again, she's keen to meet up again.

I'm confused. is she interested, attracted to me? Or am I friend zoned? Is she gay and trying to make it work with a guy? I can't figure it out. Thought I'd get it out of my system here. Thanks.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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sodbuster

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If you aren't banging, you are just a friend to hang out with.....maybe her "date" to show to mom and dad that takes the pressure off her to marry and have kids
 

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don't ask her if she is seeing anyone, its a moot point, she will lie to entertain her desire, I had a girl not ever mention to me she had a Boyfriend becasue she wanted to everyone think she is avaiable, so again moot point, ok less text don't look so needy, shows you like her and please make a move on this next "date", if not move on, also please do tell she is not the only one in your target? (i'm betting in no...) you will be in a world of pain if is the case. my take here is she is stringing you along just for the fun, if you can't make a deal on this date forget her
 
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