Joshski
Don Juan
Sup everyone, haven't posted here in a while but any advice is appreciated. Short version at the end.
I'm a 20-year-old in college. I met this girl in January through a friend and thought she was cute. Due to my previous experience in dating (or lack thereof ) I didn't think about making a move or anything since it's not really in my repertoire.
Anyway, it was my guy friend (Tom) and these 3 girls we always hung out with. One day after we chilled Tom said to me "Hey, that one girl was laughing at everything you said."
I didn't really take notice until after he mentioned it. I got her # from a group chat and started texting her. Text for a while and then I invite her to go play basketball with me. She agrees and we play for an hour or so. Then a couple days later I say screw it, I call her and ask her out to dinner Saturday night. She agrees. Dinner goes great, we get back and she invites me inside. I was super super nervous, but we eventually kissed (my first).
We continued hooking up for 2 months, from March 1 til the end of school (May 6 or so). We got breakfast together at least twice a week every week, we went and hiked together, played bball together, watched movies, etc. Eventually we agreed to become exclusive, but she said she didn't want a relationship. I'm not exactly sure why not. I know she was in a 9-month relationship in HS (2 years ago) that didn't end well.
In my mind, everything was great. We were going on dates, holding hands in public, meeting each others friends. She introduced me to her sister, we told our parents about each other and things like that.
However, it seems like everything has changed since summer started. She texted me the first day of summer. Then we didn't talk for a few days so I snapchatted her. Basically, she no longer initiates any conversations, whether through Facebook, text, snapchat, phone call, FaceTime, etc. She herself said she wanted to talk over summer, but after I initiated 10+ snaps/texts, I thought I would let her initiate.
Well, that lasted over 30 days before I eventually broke down and texted her. The convo actually lasted for quite a while and she genuinely seemed interested. As of today, it's been another 2 weeks since we didn't talk for over a month.
A large part of me feels like I just need to stop talking to her all together and move on since it's clear that's what she's done. I suppose this is a case of oneitis. The other part feels like this is happening because it's summer and things will be normal when we go back. (She lives in Mass., I'm in NY)
Short Version:
>Met girl in January, hook up from March-May
>We go on dates, watch movies, hook up, hold hands, etc.
>She says she's exclusive to me
>We tell our parents about each other, I met her sister
>She says she wants to talk over summer, but isn't ready for a relationship even though everything we were doing is what a relationship is
>Now that it's summer, I've initiated every convo, she only has once since May and that was when my grandfather passed away
Prepared for the worst, I guess. Any and all advice/criticism/feedback is appreciated.
I'm a 20-year-old in college. I met this girl in January through a friend and thought she was cute. Due to my previous experience in dating (or lack thereof ) I didn't think about making a move or anything since it's not really in my repertoire.
Anyway, it was my guy friend (Tom) and these 3 girls we always hung out with. One day after we chilled Tom said to me "Hey, that one girl was laughing at everything you said."
I didn't really take notice until after he mentioned it. I got her # from a group chat and started texting her. Text for a while and then I invite her to go play basketball with me. She agrees and we play for an hour or so. Then a couple days later I say screw it, I call her and ask her out to dinner Saturday night. She agrees. Dinner goes great, we get back and she invites me inside. I was super super nervous, but we eventually kissed (my first).
We continued hooking up for 2 months, from March 1 til the end of school (May 6 or so). We got breakfast together at least twice a week every week, we went and hiked together, played bball together, watched movies, etc. Eventually we agreed to become exclusive, but she said she didn't want a relationship. I'm not exactly sure why not. I know she was in a 9-month relationship in HS (2 years ago) that didn't end well.
In my mind, everything was great. We were going on dates, holding hands in public, meeting each others friends. She introduced me to her sister, we told our parents about each other and things like that.
However, it seems like everything has changed since summer started. She texted me the first day of summer. Then we didn't talk for a few days so I snapchatted her. Basically, she no longer initiates any conversations, whether through Facebook, text, snapchat, phone call, FaceTime, etc. She herself said she wanted to talk over summer, but after I initiated 10+ snaps/texts, I thought I would let her initiate.
Well, that lasted over 30 days before I eventually broke down and texted her. The convo actually lasted for quite a while and she genuinely seemed interested. As of today, it's been another 2 weeks since we didn't talk for over a month.
A large part of me feels like I just need to stop talking to her all together and move on since it's clear that's what she's done. I suppose this is a case of oneitis. The other part feels like this is happening because it's summer and things will be normal when we go back. (She lives in Mass., I'm in NY)
Short Version:
>Met girl in January, hook up from March-May
>We go on dates, watch movies, hook up, hold hands, etc.
>She says she's exclusive to me
>We tell our parents about each other, I met her sister
>She says she wants to talk over summer, but isn't ready for a relationship even though everything we were doing is what a relationship is
>Now that it's summer, I've initiated every convo, she only has once since May and that was when my grandfather passed away
Prepared for the worst, I guess. Any and all advice/criticism/feedback is appreciated.