"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Not sure what's going on... Mixed Signals?

jogel13

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So I meet this girl in class, we hang out a few times and start hooking up a couple times. This is toward then end of the term before summer break and about a week after we hook up sober on a monday night she gets really busy with school work and has friends in town on 2 weekends in a row so I don't really see her that much. I call her and we go eat dinner a few times together and hang out without doing anything more.

So fast foreward to the last week of school, my roomates and I have a party and I invite her, we talk on the phone that night and she says she would love to come but can't because of a 10 pager due that monday, which she actually did stay in and work on. The next day we eat lunch and she continues to work on her homework.

Finally, the last day before we both go home I invite her to come watch a movie with me, she says she already promised her girlfriends to go out with them for the last time but wanted to the next day. I call her the next day and she says she is just too busy packing and studying for finals to come over, but mentions how we only live about an hour and a half away at home and that she could come up in the summer.


I feel like I'm getting mixed signals there, not sure what to do. I haven't talked to her since then (it was last week) and I think I shouldn't text her or anything for a little while.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Sounds like you became too familiar. It went up, it went down. Have fun this summer, and hit the ground running next fall.
 

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jogel13 said:
So I meet this girl in class, we hang out a few times and start hooking up a couple times. This is toward then end of the term before summer break and about a week after we hook up sober on a monday night she gets really busy with school work and has friends in town on 2 weekends in a row so I don't really see her that much. I call her and we go eat dinner a few times together and hang out without doing anything more.

So fast foreward to the last week of school, my roomates and I have a party and I invite her, we talk on the phone that night and she says she would love to come but can't because of a 10 pager due that monday, which she actually did stay in and work on. The next day we eat lunch and she continues to work on her homework.

Finally, the last day before we both go home I invite her to come watch a movie with me, she says she already promised her girlfriends to go out with them for the last time but wanted to the next day. I call her the next day and she says she is just too busy packing and studying for finals to come over, but mentions how we only live about an hour and a half away at home and that she could come up in the summer.


I feel like I'm getting mixed signals there, not sure what to do. I haven't talked to her since then (it was last week) and I think I shouldn't text her or anything for a little while.
There's nothing much to it. It was what it was. Don't worry about it.
 

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The thing is I want to make it more.. should I wait till next year and contact her?
 
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