"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Quark007

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I'm in my early 30s. I was kind of a late bloomer. I didn't really start dating until my early 20s. My first sexual partner was the woman I eventually married. We were together 8 years but it ended a few months back.

So I'm back on the dating scene. A few weeks ago I started seeing a woman that I'm really into. Same age as me. Needless to say her sexual history is a lot more extensive than mine. I made the mistake early on of telling her that, with the exception of a a few one-night stands, my ex-wife was my only real partner. I was in a committed relationship for most of my 20s, so this information probably wasn't that hard to figure out.

Since then she has volunteered a lot of information about herself, without any prompting by me. Mentioning several times what kind of sex she has had, how young she started having it, etc. She mentioned she has cheated on someone in the past. No super graphic detail, but more stuff like... "I tried anal sex once, I didn't like it, it felt like...". You get the picture. She has said things like, "Have you had one-night stands? It's important you did." Also, "I've obviously been with a lot more people than you." On at least 4 separate occasions she has brought up that she slept with a woman before. She even mentioned once something that her sister had done with a famous celebrity.

She also said she hasn't been in a relationship for 3 years...

I'm not a prude and I'm not insecure about my sexual past at all. But I am kind of curious why she is throwing all of it out there. At first I was like "whatever" but the frequency of her mentioning (combined with the cavalier attitude) the same information over and over is getting pretty weird and distasteful. What if I wanted to have children with this person some day?

What's the deal? Is she insecure? I don't get the over-sharing. Thoughts?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Kailex

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Who cares as to the "why"?

You are really INTO this girl? Are you sure? She sounds like a walking red flag, specially for someone coming right out of a divorce. I don't get how you can take her seriously! She already admitting to having cheated on someone in the past. Is that something you want on your mind if you get serious with her?

If I were you, I would keep her at an arm's length and not get emotionally invested... this chick is BAD NEWS.
 

quagland

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being a recently divorced guy in my late 30's myself, I would NOT look at her as any sort of serious relationship material. In fact, you shouldn't think about that with any women for at least a year. I made that mistake by jumping into dating 8 months after leaving my wife. Needless to say it was a complete disaster.
Use her for what she is, an easy fvck. She's probably telling you this stuff now so when she does go and fvck a room full of guys, she can't say she didn't warn you.

Being a newly divorced guy in your early 30's, don't throw all your eggs in her deep basket...just bang her and move on to others until you find one that doesn't leave you scrambling for the message boards going "what do I do"...trust me, I've been there, as recently as last week haha.
 
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