Not sure what to do...

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

At the moment I am hooking up with this girl from the same college I am at. We are "only hooking up" terms as we have discussed about but we have hooked up many times since. A girl told me if you have sleot with someone 3 times then you are both going out because both sides are attached.

The problem is that I like this other girl who lives off campus. Shes a virgin but we get along so well and I really like her. I hung out with her for about 2 hours yesterday but never got to kiss close.

Now I dont wan't to be the bastard and hurt someone but I am single after all. I do want to hook up with both but don't want to commit or lose both. I do want to stay single and keep my freedom.

Has anyone been in this sort of situation? How can you manage seeing 2 girls at once and keep it smooth sailing? Do I become honest about what I'm doing or shall I keep it from both. I don't want it to blow up in my face.

 

[FRëSHURE]

Early in Mysterys archive he said something which really hit home with me.

And I'm paraphrasing. It will be nothing like he said it, but it will contain the same message.

If seeing more then one girl at a time is important to your happiness, do it. If having you exclusivly hers is important to her happiness, don't let her know you're not.

Basically, who's happiness is more important to you?

Otherwise, it sounds like you're doing great.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea you're right. My happiness is top priority. The only thing I'm worried about is hurting either of the girls and if worse happens, one or both girls end up leaving me.

I just need to know how I'm going to play this. I haven't had sex with either for nearly a week cos I felt guilty in case something happens and it backfires on me

 

[( . )( . )]

Reread over your posts, do you see a common theme?

You continually say basically the same thing "I dont want to hurt them", "I feel guilty". Guess what that is? ......SOCIAL CONDITIONING

Why are you living an ideal that benefits chicks? Your guilt is nothing more than a tool force fed to you since birth to keep you in check.

Your a 21 year old man whos only crime is a NATURAL urge. Think about it.

Originally posted by Rudy_TubeSteak
A girl told me if you have sleot with someone 3 times then you are both going out because both sides are attached.

Beg your pardon, what was that? A girl "told" you did she?

Why did you listen? :kick:

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Ok I wanna see both girls but how do I go about doing this. I've never come across this problem before.

Any of you guys know how to deal with this?

 

[FRëSHURE]

I am constantly seeing multiple girls.

I just avoid talking about commitment with them.

I frequent the same club, and they'll sometimes come, and see me making out with someone. If they talk about which is rare. You just sort of laugh it off. "Oh, I didn't realise you were so into me."

Just don't talk about being exclusive and you're doing NOTHING wrong.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Nice....

Yea a close friend pulled that off with 2 girls in the SAME COLLEGE and it worked for him. So I'll try that out when the time comes

 

[speedo_meme]

like Michael Vick said,"2 cell phones"....

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Can anyone please share (brag) about juggling girls and dating multiple partners? Im very keen to see how it works.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Ive just added another girl to my stable....so thats 2 proper ones and another one on the backburner....but is it worth it all?

 

[xblitz44x]

Originally posted by Rudy_TubeSteak
Can anyone please share (brag) about juggling girls and dating multiple partners? Im very keen to see how it works.

The bottom line is BE HONEST. You don't have to initiate conversations with them, but if something comes up, be honest.

I know it sucks to lose one of the girls but TRUST ME, losing one cleanly is a lot easier than stringing her along, giving her false hope, then devistating her when she eventually finds out you're not on the same page. The clean-up is such a headache. Do yourself a favor and be honest when the time comes.

As of right now you're not obligated to be monogamous. But if the chick asks you if you're seeing anybody else, you need to either tell her that it's your own business that you'd rather not discuss, or be honest.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

As of tonight I've got 3 now...but slept with only one girl and only made out with the other 2. I have a date with one girl on friday and the other 2 are going to the same formal I'm going to.


So I'm kind of freaking out about the situation and don't know what to do.

 

[OneArmDeeJay]

Originally posted by Rudy_TubeSteak
As of tonight I've got 3 now...but slept with only one girl and only made out with the other 2. I have a date with one girl on friday and the other 2 are going to the same formal I'm going to.


So I'm kind of freaking out about the situation and don't know what to do.

You will lose it all when you show up at the formal.

Next time be careful on when you set up your dates.

Going out seeing multiple girls is cool but being exclusive or making your intentions that way isn't

You my friend needs to make your intentions clear from the get go and that is to be a FB.

And it sounds to me you really want to go out with the virgin but at the same time you love the freedom of being single and going to wild parties making out, rubbing, and screwing, all kinds of girls and can do this with out cheating and hurting somebody as you should be.

Well you can’t have your cake and eat it too.

You know,

You can’t sit on both sides of the fence cause its going to hurt ya.

You must choose one or the other.

So if you want the life of being a bachelor/pimp then continue on with no regret and no remorse of hurting girl’s feelings.

If you want a relationship go out with the virgin and don’t cheat.

Personally it seems to me you just want to have fun and not be tied down so your best thing to do is continue doing what your doing WITHOUT feelings.

You CAN’T care about hurting someone when going out with multiple girls. It’s bound to happen. So when you go to this formal don’t worry about hurting peoples feelings because you mission is not to find a LTR. You are out to have a good time and get more ass then a toilet seat.

Besides you’re at college why would you want a GF anyways?

 

[penkitten]

if you arent committed then you can date them both.
however, please bear in mind, neither of them are committed to you either.they might also be dating other people . you can not have your cake and eat it too if either of them finds out about the other one.
with 3 people involved , odds are that one chick will fall for you, you will fall for the other chick , and the other chick will fall for someone totally out of the blue .

im going to give you parental advise, dont make anyone any promises that you arent willing to keep and have your fun and sew some oats while you are young. do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
date as much as you can and figure out what kind of lady you are looking for later down the road and what kind you are not looking for later down the road. protect your reproduction parts , your wallet and your heart, in that exact order . get an education, dont invest in things you dont believe in and live it up.
pay your rent first and groceries last, man can too survive on potatoes cooked a different way each night for a month if he has too. dont sign up for wars you dont believe in, find out what you believe religion to be before you start a family, and always take care of your momma. dogs are mans best friends, full coverage auto insurance is always the best way to go and an old man with tons of stories gets more attention from his grandkids than a bitter old guy alone in a nursing home. you only get one life so live it to the fullest and never sulk in regret because its a waste of time. go big or go home means be willing to take some chances .

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Ok how do I make it so my situation with girls is not so in a relationship but not quite just a random hook up.

Does putting them in LJBF zone with benefits work out much easier?