Not sure what my next move is with young hottie

[GoinDeep07]

I am a 46 professional male who works out alot and is fortunate to have a good paying job. Lately i seem to be attracting girls i never would have dreamed of years ago, i think the coinfiedence is helping.

while traveling out of town a few months ago a freind asked me to join him for adrink with his new girlfreind. i showed up and the girls 25 year old gorgeous daufgter also showed up. i played it cool mentioned to her i had a girlfreind and we just hit it off with small talk had a great night. Eventully me and my bf broke up. we had so much fun that i hooked up with the three of them each week. After a while "hannah" was putting her hand on my leg and eventually would sit on my lap.
We (my freind and his girlfreind were going boating one weekend, they asked if hannah couldjoin us) i met them at the lake for agreat day. when it ended isaid i had some freinds coming over my house for drinks about an hour away. we all came Hannah hoped in with me. had agreat night drinking, joking and telling stories. Hannah stayed the night with me but we didnt go all the way. she said she has along dstance relatonship that was failing. i told her dont drop him for me that is her choice. she left and texted me several times on the way home about cant wait to spend more time togethe.

A couple weeks go by and my freind and i have a work meeting at a resort itold hannah to come up. she did again we had an awesome time, played on the water, danced at the bar she would rub my back and give me kisses. We get to the room and we r in bed she starts asking about my thoughts for a serious relationship. i tell her lets keep it light for now and jst have fun. The next night in bed we r talking and i tell her its been great lets give it a shot and she could travel to hawaii with me next month for work, she starts to get uneasy and doesnt know what to do with her long distance boyfreind, i tell "youl figure it out" the next morning she tells me she loves him, i tell hger calmly that she shouldnt be hanging out with me then, she agreed. we still had a good day at the lake and iwas hands off.

The next week she sends me an email says she is thinking of me and hopes to spend another weeked together but this weekend her bf is coming from out of town. i simply reply "have a great weekend" and figured it was done and never contacted her again for a week.

today she showed up as i was leaving work and and waswondering if i was mad aboujt her spending the weekend with her bf. i stated "not at all you have a bf and thats that"

What do i do here just walk awayand never lookback?

 

[romangod]

today she showed up as i was leaving work and and waswondering if i was mad aboujt her spending the weekend with her bf. i stated "not at all you have a bf and thats that"

What do i do here just walk awayand never lookback?

I would walk away but look back once to see if she followed. If not, delete her from your psyche and move on.


You're now one of her plates and she's playing you. You're too available and understanding and are ready to be filed in the LJBF category, if you're not already there. Once there, it's hard to get out.

Your answer to her question was a "chump" response that made her feel better but did nothing for you.

It's time to disappear for a while and if she contacts you to do something you have to say "no" without any explanation. She knows you want her. Time to make it less obvious. Your absence might make the heart grow fonder.


Good luck.


Cheers!

 

[GoinDeep07]

Thanks for the reply. I'm just going to pursue other women and shake it off. If hannah is interested enough she will come around.

 

[GoinDeep07]

Well i go about my life, no contact at all with Hanna, I invite a nice looking girl lisa to the lake with me Friday having a good time about 7:00pm i get a text from Hannna sayin she will be in my town saturday (she lives about 100 miles away) and has things to do in the day but said it we be fun to get together later. I was planning on going to my buddy Steves place on a different lake Saturday about 3 hours away. I dont respond to the text. a few hours later my freind kris who dates Hanna's bf and roomate text me saying they are out with hanna and he told her i was going to steves saturday. he said we (kris, hanna and his gf) will fly to steves on saturday if i can pick them up at the airport. (he has a plane and we have done this before) and we can have a great weekend. I dont respond because i am with this other girl. Kris tries calling me a few times but i miss the calls. lisa and i have good time we go to her place after the lake and have some drinks, she is into it but im not feeling it. we mess around some and i tell her i gotta run.

I get home around 1:00 am call kris.. no response, text him... no response. I assume he is staying at the girls place wich is outside of town with no cell service. i email hanna (best way to contact her at home) i say "i hear you guys are doing some flying tomorrow..cool. if kris is hanging out over there have him get a hold of me early tomorrow before i leave". i talk to kris first thing in the am he says the plans changed there not going to fly up and that hanna is driving to my town with her sister to do some shopping. I just tell him i am headed to steves. I never did hear from hanna. i dont know what to make of it? she testing me or what?

 

[Johnnyventana]

What happened? You ignored the text and later ignored all the phone calls only to then try and call at 1am, at which time they were probably passed out sleeping. You missed the 'window.'

 

[GoinDeep07]

I agree, i missed the window, they were all in bed. I'm not sure where to draw the line. i blow her off and move on with others which jeapordizes my chance for hooking up with her on Sat. on the other hand possibly the fact that i didnt change my plans to meet her and went about the weekend will send a message that i have other options. im just going to keep focus on work, workingout and other girls and see if i run into her. if i do and she makes a move i am gonna make it clear that if its not over with her bf im not interested. i dont feel good about being "the other guy" not cool!

 

[romangod]

I'm not sure where to draw the line.

If you can be honest with yourself about being an AFC or having "oneitis", that is where you draw the line.

That's when it's time to step back and refocus. Those two traits are the death knell.


Cheers!

 

[GoinDeep07]

im working on it. been out of the game for a while. Romangod - how would have you handled the text and phone calls friday night?

 

[romangod]

Romangod - how would have you handled the text and phone calls friday night?

I have no idea. I wouldn't have been in your situation in the first place. I don't text and I refuse to start.

I no longer put women on a pedestal or develop oneitis. I've outgrown that folly so my advice to you would be moot.


Cheers!

 

[movistar]

You had a young chick showing you some attention, which is a great feeling, easy to get wrapped up in it. I've been there. She may come around again, but I would definitely focus on other chicks, good news is you attracted this one, so there may be another young starlet just around the corner.

 

[GoinDeep07]

Thanks for the response. A mutual freind of all of ours was killed in a tragic accident yesterday so we will be together as a group. My focus will be on the freinds and family of our mutul freind. Putting the dj aside and for a few days. I havent contacted Hanna but i know we will be in touch over this issue.

 

[GoinDeep07]

so our paths never cross during our freinds passing. i have to go to another city for work tonight. I head out on the town, hook up with a very nice looking girl we have some drinks, listen to a band outside i play it cool. She comes back to the hotel with me for a coule of hours great time. great sex. she leaves. i check the bb and my freind and hanna's best freind took the plan to do some gambling for a long weekend. his text says that "i better get a hold of Hanna she is really wondering why she hasent heard from me and we should get together for dinner or whatever". Is now the time to srike? i really dont have oneites and have a ton of confidence now. Hanna is one of the hottest girls i have ever seen. 25, about 5'-11" tall, blonde, tan, long legs, fake top but looks awesome, face like a model. any suggestions-buzzed now so i wont make a move tonight.