"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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4 months ago I had women throwing themselves at me. Then one day I decided that none of those women did it for me, so I cut them lose. I just wanted to find a fresh batch of women (thinking it would be as easy as before).

Now, I can't get a girl interested in me unless she's unattractive, and I have no interest in unattractive women.

In the past 4 weeks, I've been flaked on, stood up, and flat out told I that they weren't interested. Ah, man, they were so into me when we met, but then each one said forget it. They say they have a headache hours before we're supposed to get together or they're too tired. I wish I knew what is wrong.

I've pretty much given up on trying. I guess I'd rather be alone than feel unwanted.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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slaog said:
Think back to what you were doing a few months ago.

It's not uncommon to slip back into AFC mode if you get lazy and maybe it happened you. It's happened me too in the last few weeks until I realised yesterday.
I can tell you that I'm not lazy. I go out and meet women all the time, but they just aren't interested in me.

Here's what I thought it was:

I've become desperate and they can tell.

What am I doing differently? I have no idea. I act the same way I did then.
 

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T|CK said:
I can tell you that I'm not lazy. I go out and meet women all the time, but they just aren't interested in me.

Here's what I thought it was:

I've become desperate and they can tell.

What am I doing differently? I have no idea. I act the same way I did then.
Its your mindset. You were spinning plates and didn't care about them. Now you're worried about not having any women and it shows.

Your inner game has change and making you behave differently around women.
 

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slaog said:
Its your mindset. You were spinning plates and didn't care about them. Now you're worried about not having any women and it shows.

Your inner game has change and making you behave differently around women.
Exactly my man, you not caring made it seem like you had options(which you did) and two rules about being wanted are...

1) Women desire what they don't have

and most importantly

2) Women desire what other women want

So you gotta start from square one and build up your own self image so that you're not worried about needing a girl and eventually everything else will fall into place.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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T|CK said:
4 months ago I had women throwing themselves at me. Then one day I decided that none of those women did it for me, so I cut them lose. I just wanted to find a fresh batch of women (thinking it would be as easy as before).

Now, I can't get a girl interested in me unless she's unattractive, and I have no interest in unattractive women.

In the past 4 weeks, I've been flaked on, stood up, and flat out told I that they weren't interested. Ah, man, they were so into me when we met, but then each one said forget it. They say they have a headache hours before we're supposed to get together or they're too tired. I wish I knew what is wrong.

I've pretty much given up on trying. I guess I'd rather be alone than feel unwanted.
I know how you feel. It's like the spirit of the alpha male leaves you and you dont seem to be able to pull like a magnet anymore for some reason. It happens, however, it will return with time.
 

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medmackinhoes said:
Exactly my man, you not caring made it seem like you had options(which you did) and two rules about being wanted are...

1) Women desire what they don't have

and most importantly

2) Women desire what other women want

So you gotta start from square one and build up your own self image so that you're not worried about needing a girl and eventually everything else will fall into place.
So you're saying we shouldn't pursue women?

I don't understand how we are supposed to get women if they can't even know that we want them? If they want what they can't have, then how the hell do you get a woman that can have you.

It just sounds like you're saying I should wait around and let them come to me, then act like they can't have me.
 

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T|CK said:
So you're saying we shouldn't pursue women?

I don't understand how we are supposed to get women if they can't even know that we want them? If they want what they can't have, then how the hell do you get a woman that can have you.

It just sounds like you're saying I should wait around and let them come to me, then act like they can't have me.
It depends how you persue them. If you chase after them they'll run but if you show them you're interested but not going to chase them then they'll be more likely to come to you. You can show a person you interested simply by going up and talking to them.

It's a fine line and a balance is needed.

You must show them that you are the prize and don't care about any outcome because you don't need women to be happy. Don't tell them that SHOW them. It's really a mindset, the mindset you had but lost.

PS It's always a good idea to hold onto some plates. They're like a security blanket... like women putting people in the friendzone and having AFC orbit them.
 

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Try more rapport. When your getting a lot of attraction initially then you are attracting them with your confidence and ballsyness, but then they logically think why they should go on a date with someone, and thats when they realize they do not know anything about you. Relate to anything they say. I really like to ask everyone where they are fom because that is very easy to relate to.

Bottom line: If you are genuinely interested in getting to know people then it becomes very easy to relate. Keep your head up.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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