"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Not sure if she's truly interested or if it's all a test

montybrown

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So this chick that I'm trying to do get with was telling me about how there was this restaurant and she had a coupon or something. Then I'm like "Great, you're inviting me to dinner? When's a good time..." She laughs and says "No!!" then she tells me how she is about to quit her job because she is gonna work somewhere else. I told her that sucks, I'm probably going to quit next month anyway because I'm going on vacation and they're most likely not going to allow it. We always flirt at work. At the time I'm kinda happy that she's quitting because then it won't interfere in my job and I can stay there. But now, I sent her a message on MySpace wishing her a happy thanksgiving and asked her when is the last day she'll be at the job. And now she replies back to me with "Hey! I decided to stay :)" Fuuuck. I'm not sure how to pursue things with her. I feel that she's playing some kind of game with me. Unsure of how to respond to her. I mean, I feel that she's playing 'hard to get' as we flirt a lot but she seems unsure I guess. Any advice on how to get this thing started? I already played the game back with her saying how She's not even my type and I just wanna be her friend. So I don't know if I already ruined it for myself and she moved on or whatnot. No matter what though if she ends up staying at the job - I'll be quitting soon.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Joe The Homophobe

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Stop playing around! time for you to go direct on her. Either that or your value in her eyes will keep on diminishing the longer you don't ask her out.

next time you see her

you: hey, what's up
hb: bla bla bla
you: I want you to stop whatever you're doing cause im more fun and we'll travel till the end of time together
hb: *probably laughin*
you: How would would it feel for me if I were to kiss you?
hb: *probably laughin*
you: let me take you out sometime, how about ________

I wrote a whole script for you pretty simple stuff. If she says no then EJECT. Don't waste your time and don't waste her's with your wussy flirting. Go direct on her, be a man and let your intentions known.
 

JDA70

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I'm not sure how to pursue things with her.
Ask her for her phone number ASAP. Don't wait around.

I feel that she's playing some kind of game with me. Unsure of how to respond to her.
She's waiting for you to be a man and make a move.


Any advice on how to get this thing started? I already played the game back with her saying how She's not even my type and I just wanna be her friend.
Foolish mistake.

Look, stop goofing around and go after her.
Get her number and set up a date.
If she says no then move on.

If she says no don't flirt
with her anymore and show disinterest.
 
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