Not sure if GF is sh!t testing me or actually telling the truth!

[Duracell_Bunny]

Just had a weekend away with the lads (a good one in all!).

My gf has been out with her friend on Saturday night, her friend is single.

She didn't mention anything to me at first, but has been very upset since I got back. She locked herself out of our flat by loosing her handbag (keys, phone, the lot gone), with her friends keys in the flat as she was staying over... and on the evening I got back her father called saying her uncle is in a coma, at the moment the chances are not too great. She has always been keeping in touch with her uncle.

Onto the sh1t test: Last night when I came in from work she was crying like mad and said she was kissed by another guy. She claims that her friend was getting along well with this other person in the guys group, and they went together into a club. My gf says she was chatting to this person for a while, and then out of nowhere he went and kissed her. She is insistent that she backed of with a WTF moment and then went to her friend wanting to leave. (at that point she can't find her handbag).

I dunno what to think. You mean it's not bothered me but I'm very wary of what to do next. I do not want to be with someone who goes out kissing random guys, but I have no way of knowing what really happened . When I asked her directly "Are you definatly sure you were not kissing him back" I watched her eyes, she couldn't look me straight in the eye and was looking around everywhere as if she was panicking. She admitted she was extremely drunk. I have given a neutral response to it all, and the way she keeps saying "I thought you were going to be mad at me" makes me think she wanted me to get mad. I haven't said fvck you, and I haven't said it's ok.

Last night I realized something is a little fishy, we share a tablet and she always leaves herself logged in on Facebook. When I went to use it, to my surprise she was logged out - a first! When I asked her, the excuse was she was fed up of all the notifications coming in, also not feeling 100% on that.

I am confused as to why she is upset about it, rather than being like "this dirty bastard tried to kiss me the other night", even more.. why has she even told me about it?

All I have said to her is that it's made me think a lot. She is in a complete wreck right now and flooding my phone that I can't really use right now, as I'm in an office.

 

[asa_don]

this aint no sh!t test bro, something went down with her and that dude.

she knew you were going to find out something, so she told you the minimal thing that happened to cover her ass, she will deny the sex

when chicks start acting strange, acting all emotional, hiding things, covering up, something went down, she isnt going to act this way for no reason.

my buddy went thru the same thing a month ago, his gf had her phone out all the time, when she cheated she had it hidden so he couldnt see it.

lots of red flags here, when girls go out alone, sh!t will happen behind your back

prepare to make an exit

 

[Cerwin Vega]

If your gut tells you something is off, then something is off.

How do you know when a woman is lying?
Her lips are moving.

 

[MattTheW]

im never quick to jump to conclusions like other guys here, but from what youre saying, i think shes jerking you around.

I would usually give benefit of the doubt, but from what you've written. No doubt to be given....

in my mind this is clearly cheating. she knows it too thats why shes acting the way she is. any way you look at it its her fault. she shouldnt be chatting to other dudes in that type of environment when youre not around. espeically not when shes drunk. she went out got drunk and met a guy she liked enough to compromise your relationship. trust me i went through this exact situation forgave the girl and then paid for it in the long term.

Yeah - classic, she's acting as if she is guilty, eye contact is a weird one though. It can go both ways, some people will over compensate not being able to make eye contact and stare wide eyed at you.......
But in this case, the no eye contact is a tell that she knows she's done wrong
Question is, does she think the wrong doing was
Unintentionally making herself appear available (which ends with a guy kissing her)
or
Going out looking to pull......

a)the reason shes hiding her facebook from you now is because shes discussing with her friend how things are going with you regarding what went down.

or

b) she has the dude on her fb

maybe both. either way you should kill this relationship for now. demote your gf immediately to a plate and go fuk another girl ASAP

It could be either of these - but as Midnight says - either reason is not positive

Sharing a place makes this pretty sh1tty for you

 

[Kailex]

My guess is she did more than just get kissed and feels guilty about it. She probably figured structuring the story that way would make you "ok" with it and thus, relieve her guilt from whatever really happened.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The fact that she went out with her single friends to a nightclub and got extremely drunk is already halfway towards cheating. She's knowingly putting herself in a situation where she's going to be hit on by other guys and her ability to respond will be impaired by alcohol. Anybody who has ever been to a nightclub knows what happens to chicks who get "extremely drunk" and how they become instant targets for every dude in the club looking for an easy lay.

 

[Cerwin Vega]

The fact that she went out with her single friends to a nightclub and got extremely drunk is already halfway towards cheating. She's knowingly putting herself in a situation where she's going to be hit on by other guys and her ability to respond will be impaired by alcohol. Anybody who has ever been to a nightclub knows what happens to chicks who get "extremely drunk" and how they become instant targets for every dude in the club looking for an easy lay.

THIS!