Not sure I have the Time/Energy for this

[Leporello]

Sorry for the long post...

If any of you remember or care, I'm currently working in Saigon as an English teacher. I got here three months ago. My first month was gone because I wa sin training for ten hours a day. The second month i had to find a job, find an apartment, move in, etc. etc. Only now that I've started to have some extra money and free time have I started going out and meeting people.

I also joined alot of Vietnam Facebook groups And I have been DELUGED with girls wanting to meet me, like 2-3 a day. 90% of the time their english is terrible ("We to make friend?") but otherwise it's been very flattering.

So far this weekend I've had three dates (would've been four but one chick texted me as I was already into my third drink at a music club with my friends) and one more to go, a personal record. They've ranged from pretty good to terrible, but with different girls you're bound to meet some clunkers.

The thing is, I'm not sure I want to keep this going. I'm tired, it's expensive, and it'll be a couple more weeks at least before I get a decent chance at a fvck (one of the girls outright told me, unprompted, she wouldn't do it before marriage. ordinarily I'd consider that a challenge, but she wasn't hot enough to bother over. NEXT)

Because of the nature of my work I have to get up early and I don't get home before 8, so my weekday evenings are shot. I just want some time to myself, but I don't want to miss any opportunities. Advice?

 

[Randallpink83]

Yeah man I totally feel you on your problems right now. Sometimes its rough keeping the game going when the game of life itself can be very draining.

That is cool that you are in a new place hittin it up. I bet you are getting a lot of kick@zz experiences from it all. And its nice to have girls pursuing you - for whatever reason you are bringing value to them - use that to your advantage.


But dude even as busy as a lot of us can be, there is NO excuse to get in the way of where you want to be with girls - Time, Money, Abstinent Saigonians etc... None of it has to be a roadblock unless you make it a roadblock. Your reality is what you make of it!

Just ask yourself what you want. Do you really want this life you are pursuing with girls? How bad you want it? If you really want this then stick to your guns - And stay POSITIVE with your situation - You can find a good Balance for everything if you just pursue that balance, trust me - Just stay positive.

And stop spending money on these girls as much if its hurting you. I hardly spend anything on girls. If you really want to, you could work it out to where you are meeting and banging several new girls a week without spending a dime! Just make it a challenge and figure out whats gonna work for you and hit it up hard.

Discipline yourself - Set up an amount of nights you will go out every week - Like say two nights a week if you are really busy, and then Always meet that requirement - Make it something YOU HAVE TO DO.

But to sum up - Get a positive outlook on your situation and make it work best for you - balance your life to suit your needs, not the other way around - its obvious you want this, otherwise you wouldn;t be here asking - So go get it!! :cheer:

 

[Leporello]

I know I want it. In a way, it's what I've always wanted.

It's not so much that I'm spending alot of money on them - anyone who's been to Vietnam knows how cheap it is - but more in the sense that I have to learn to be smarter about it, and stop taking them to Western-style places that are so expensive.

Yes, stay positive - that's always been my biggest problem. I'll do my best.

I'm still nexting that Abstinent bytch, though. For a Vietnamese girl she's probably in the bottom fifth of attractiveness.

 

[DonJuan11]

So far this weekend I've had three dates (would've been four but one chick texted me as I was already into my third drink at a music club with my friends) and one more to go, a personal record. They've ranged from pretty good to terrible, but with different girls you're bound to meet some clunkers.

The thing is, I'm not sure I want to keep this going. I'm tired, it's expensive, and it'll be a couple more weeks at least before I get a decent chance at a fvck (one of the girls outright told me, unprompted, she wouldn't do it before marriage. ordinarily I'd consider that a challenge, but she wasn't hot enough to bother over. NEXT)

Because of the nature of my work I have to get up early and I don't get home before 8, so my weekday evenings are shot. I just want some time to myself, but I don't want to miss any opportunities. Advice?

You can either

1) Go out on a weekday when you are tired to see a girl
2) Go out on the weekend when you are less tired to see a girl

Not sure what else you can do.

 

[WC2]

Too expensive? I hope you're not spending $$ on women when it's not needed. Women should want to go out with you for other reasons-- you're funny, you have a great personality, you are positive, etc. Once you start dishing out money to a woman, they expect it and it becomes "muscle memory" to them. There's a certain thing called 'expectations' when it comes to women. If you set your expectations high when you first start seeing them, you better know that they will expect the same, if not more later on (equating to more expensive dinners and or gifts). In other words, don't dish that $$ out unless they have dished favors out to you!

 

[SharinganUser]

Dude, You are in SAIGON, VIET NAM! When you get back to the western world, do you want to look back and say you had the time of your life, or that you wasted time worrying about dating.

Just go out and have fun seeing the sights during the day and party it up at night. Don't worry about women, you can basically get any one of those any where. If it's bothering you that much, then just take a break from dating.

You might not be able to do this overseas teaching thing again, so enjoy your time over there.

 

[Leporello]

i guess it's more a thing of: balancing 2-3 girls isn't a huge issue, but 5-6, and meeting new girls all the time? Vietnam isn't really a place for one-night stands, so it's not as if I can just fvck and forget most of them.