"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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mahon83050

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This is from a chick I went out with the other night...I met her online.

I called her and she never returned my call, so I figured I e-mail her too. It may sound weak to you guys, but I do not really care...so I figured I have nothing to lose.

This is what she writes:

Hey,

"It's been pretty good...sorry I didn't call you back. I was busy all day Saturday and yesterday I didn't feel well (I watched a really sad movie Sat. night and cried really hard and I always get a headache after I cry). Anyway, it hasn't been too exciting and it's back to work tomorrow. I hope you had a good weekend as well and I'll talk to you soon"


Personally, I think it is a blowoff....Why could she have not called me back? She says "talk to you soon, but she does not say.....call me. I think she is just being polite.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Her interest level is low... NEXT!

-AL
 

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You guys are too quick to next her.

Some of the guys I know who are excellent with women don't always win their affections on the first date.

Call her again, you have nothing to lose, just leave it a few days first.

Admitedly it does sound like a blowoff, and you certainly haven't dazzled her on the previous date.

But give her a call and remember to assume the sale and ask her out again.

For example:

"Let's go out and grab some lunch next week, dya want to go to Pizza Hut or Sizzler"

Remember not to mention a specific date, that way it's harder for her to blow you off.

If she again backs away from the date then fair enough, move on.

But so far you've recieved a mutual response, nothing outstanding and nothing negative. People sometimes appear to quick to next a girl, perhaps to save their emotions or something, I don't know.

But at the end of the day some relationships that have lasted years have involved one of the two pursueing the other for a fair while.

Of course as I said, if she persistently blows you off then admit defeat and search someone else out, but to next her already after she's done absolutely nothing wrong is ridiculous.

Try cracking a C/F joke, like say,

"Oh, did you get that disease that stops you from being able to use a phone?"

Just let her know she should have called you without it seeming as if you're too bothered about it.

A little perseverance never hurt anybody, you never know, it might just make the difference.
 

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^ Excellent advice. Exactly. You never know exactly what's going on in people's lives. If you make one more attempt to make contact and she doesn't reciprocate, next.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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