not suave at all.........

[hb]

For the first time I'm actually starting to do things I used to be to scared to do. The other day, I tried dj'in a girl, I ended up getting her number but When i was talking to her, i could sense i was stuttering ( very little, i dont even know if it was noticable) and swallowing my words, my hands were also shaking. This isnt good at alllllllll. Anyone have any suggestions about how to be more smooth about it. I honestly dont think i can help it, i just get nervous. None of these things are really noticable but I find my heart beating real fast.

 

[Evil-Rom]

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=34226

From another post in the Anything else forums.

 

[Tano]

Once you start stutterering then i think its game over. Ask yourself, why are you nervous? When i talk to chicks i dont put any pressure on myself to get a # or date, i just treat them as a long lost friend which puts me at ease.

The best way i learned this self confidence is to have an empty mind before you approach and just blurt out anything that comes to you when your infront of her. It hasnt failed me yet cos im not thinking about all the possible things that could go wrong with my opener, plus it sounds more natural if its not rehearsed.

Try chatting to chicks that you are not attracted too (eg UG5) and this will help you build up confidence and experience at the same time.

 

[squirrels]

http://www.sosuave.com/articles/nervous.htm

It's all in how you look at it.

Another thing that helps is to never EXPECT a conversation to go a certain way. If you plan out the convo, and then she throws you a curveball, you'll be scrambling to respond.