Not so Fairy Tale

[san1]

Hey guys, long time lurker, though not enough lurking in the last two years. I admit it I messed up, hadn't come back to continuously sharpen my skills which led to this exact moment where I feel I need some perspective.

It started with "I met this girl" then we dated for 2 years. Everything was fine with minor bumps and bruises but today she revealed something to me which made me a bit uneasy. I quote (not exact quote) "At a party, but the kind of party with parents, I met this guy. He was a year younger than I, we talked and whatnot, then it was time to go. I told him to add me on facebook or msn but he asked me for my number. I didn't think much of it, I gave it to him, but now I think he thinks of me "that way". I see him like a little brother and that's the reason I just told you about it."

She went on about how her friends date younger guys but she's into older guys. She's 20 and I am 22.

She met a couple of guys on facebook with one of them she's become really good friend with. This guy is a AFC, she sometimes laughs at the things he does for his girlfriend. She gave him her number. I wasn't too happy about it I let her know. She also has ample guy friends who she meets from playing Maple online. They are all on her facebook and MSN. I wasn't too worried at first (not sure I still am worried) but this is becoming a trend.

This is the problem in a nutshell. Any input or insight is highly appreciated. I need an unbiased, logical perspective; please.
Thank you.

 

[ThatMysteriousGuy]

Hey guys, long time lurker, though not enough lurking in the last two years. I admit it I messed up, hadn't come back to continuously sharpen my skills which led to this exact moment where I feel I need some perspective.

It started with "I met this girl" then we dated for 2 years. Everything was fine with minor bumps and bruises but today she revealed something to me which made me a bit uneasy. I quote (not exact quote) "At a party, but the kind of party with parents, I met this guy. He was a year younger than I, we talked and whatnot, then it was time to go. I told him to add me on facebook or msn but he asked me for my number. I didn't think much of it, I gave it to him, but now I think he thinks of me "that way". I see him like a little brother and that's the reason I just told you about it."

She went on about how her friends date younger guys but she's into older guys. She's 20 and I am 22.

She met a couple of guys on facebook with one of them she's become really good friend with. This guy is a AFC, she sometimes laughs at the things he does for his girlfriend. She gave him her number. I wasn't too happy about it I let her know. She also has ample guy friends who she meets from playing Maple online. They are all on her facebook and MSN. I wasn't too worried at first (not sure I still am worried) but this is becoming a trend.

This is the problem in a nutshell. Any input or insight is highly appreciated. I need an unbiased, logical perspective; please.
Thank you.

Don't ever do that again. You're handing her the knife on a silver platter and showing her right where to stick it.

She went into detail, looking for a reaction. The more you make a big deal about other guys, the more she'll talk about the other guys and the more big of a deal it will be. She'll just get into more and more detail and drama, nothing to worry about IF YOU IMMEDIATELY START PUTTING AND END TO BEING HER GIRLFRIEND. Really, serious, you must do this or she'll be in a pissy mood one day and she'll whip out an imaginary story that will make you say something you shouldn't and she'll have a reason to leave "he thinks I'm doing something with another guy so I might as well do it and leave" and you're completely screwed. Game Over and it will be your fault if you don't fix it now.

So stop this stuff right now. Here you go, starting tomorrow:

When she wants to talk about other guys, just say something like "i'm not your girlfriend, talk to them about your guy friends" with a relaxed smile and zero interest, remember you're getting bored, not worried. Next time switch to a shorter phrase "i'm not your girlfriend" the next couple times, smile, and even do a mock yawn. Then, after that from then on, just do a "yawn" and an armstretch like you're about to doze off in a "fun" way like boy chat is just girly cute boring crap. This will work and remove the biggest weapon in a woman's arsenal, making up detailed drama type stuff to provoke you to get jealous. Don't be her girlfriend anymore, she's talking to a man now.

She will get curious, it'll throw her off, and she'll be acting a little weird about this interest level raising change. If she pulls the "don't you care/aren't you worried?" card, say "you're a big girl now, I'm sure you can handle yourself". She can't argue that she can't handle herself with men so it's CHECKMATE, no more guy gf-gf talk with you. Other than that, don't discuss why you're bored with it.

Stop discussing her male friends in general at all after that, don't ask, don't be curious about phone calls, etc... Virtually every "omfg my gf left me for some guy on fb/whatever" post here had "i was worried about her guy friends online/phonecall and kept telling her not to but we talked about it lots blah blah blah".

This will turn your relationship around as long as you're doing other things like keeping busy with your own life, etc... general DJ skills. Start studying more DJ skills and make sure you don't let her "accidentally" nose around and read this thread

 

[Pierce]

She plays maple online.... I think u need to find a better looking girlfriend