Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Not Smoking Not Drinking

1life

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Well, I never touch to drugs and I do not plan to. I drank a couple of times at some parties, but I didn't really enjoy the beers...I just took some because everybody did. I guess I'm a loser for that...but w/e.

At the parties, every DJ I know, I see them drinking/smoking, I think it gives them an excuse to say any random things they have in mind without looking dumb.

I really don't know what to do. I do not want to start smoking/drinking just to feel accepted. Fukk that. But how can I refuse a drink from a nice chick or w/e without looking like a real pu$$y...I mean, every ''cool" teenagers at Highschool drink and experiment all kind of drugs...Me wanting to be diff will be hard, but I don't want to fall in the trap.

Please. Help me.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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adit

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You don't have to do sh*t stuff to look cool at all.Start weightlifting,and get a little big and somewhat ripped.

Keep in mind this will take atleast 5-6 months just to get a hint of getting big,but it will be worth it.

Then,if anyone offers you any of those 'unholy' (lol) things,just say that you work out quite often and don't want those to ruin your gains.But also tell the hottie that you have nothing against people who drink,and that you and her should dance together and so on..You know,get the game started like that.

Cheers!
 

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I wouldn't smoke if I were you. It's bad for you. If you know how to control yourself and you don't drink and drive, drinking isn't bad though. However, I wouldn't do it if you really don't want to though, just because everyone else is doing it. I didn't start drinking until later than most people I know because I wasn't ready for it and comfortable with it until later than some people.

If you're worried about fitting in though I suppose you could just have one or two beers and milk em' all night. That way people will see you with a beer in your hand. I wouldn't be too concerned about it though. I personally can't really have fun at a big party if I'm not drinking and everyone else is, but people don't care if you aren't drinking. I just don't like to be sober when everyone else is drunk, but that's just me.
 

Adone

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1life said:
Well, I never touch to drugs and I do not plan to. I drank a couple of times at some parties, but I didn't really enjoy the beers...I just took some because everybody did. I guess I'm a loser for that...but w/e.

At the parties, every DJ I know, I see them drinking/smoking, I think it gives them an excuse to say any random things they have in mind without looking dumb.

I really don't know what to do. I do not want to start smoking/drinking just to feel accepted. Fukk that. But how can I refuse a drink from a nice chick or w/e without looking like a real pu$$y...I mean, every ''cool" teenagers at Highschool drink and experiment all kind of drugs...Me wanting to be diff will be hard, but I don't want to fall in the trap.

Please. Help me.
One of the best Don Juans I know doesn't smoke and just drinks a couple of beers when he's with his friends.
I drink and smoke a lot just because I like the feeling of being high. Being a Don Juan (and getting girls) has nothing to do with saying random things (again, I do it 24/7, just because I like it, not to get girls), it's about having confidence. It's about knowing that you shouldn't give a shìt about a girl that considers you a loser because you don't drink/smoke. You should be the one who considers her a loser for being so immature.



Adone
 

Taviii

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No one likes you or dislikes you if you drink or if you don't. This is just an excuse for not going for that's chicks ass that offered you a drink. She just approached you and you missed the opportunity.

I drink and smoke a lot just because I like the feeling of being high.
I now what your talking about, and I'm gonna do it in a few hours :D cause its the weekend whohoooooooo!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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familyguyfan said:
I wouldn't smoke if I were you. It's bad for you. If you know how to control yourself and you don't drink and drive, drinking isn't bad though.
If you're talking about smoking buddha thats total bull****. Sure its bad for the lungs but you dont smoke nearly as much as ciggs. Alcohal is so much worse than weed health-wise. So many people have died from alcohal, and not just while driving, while there are zero recorded deaths from marijuana.
 

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Soupar said:
If you're talking about smoking buddha thats total bull****. Sure its bad for the lungs but you dont smoke nearly as much as ciggs. Alcohal is so much worse than weed health-wise. So many people have died from alcohal, and not just while driving, while there are zero recorded deaths from marijuana.
Amen to that my brother.
With that being said, I'd just like to say, you gotta stick to what you believe in. I've never been in this situation myself, considering I got into drinking and smoking weed by second semester in grade 9. However, if you really don't wanna smoke or drink, just say "I don't drink/do drugs". No big deal, as long as you make a pooint of saying that you don't judge people that do, and you have nothing against them, it's just you're personal preference not to do it.
I believe that drinking and smoking are not bad though, when done in moderation, I mean smoking a few joints, and drinking a few beers is no big deal. It's when you start smoking like, quarter ounce a night, or a whole case of beer, that's when trouble strikes.
 
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