"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Not Satisfied

Jebus

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My life is good

I have plenty of friends, talk to girls, decent-looking, athletic, good at sports, smart, etc...but I feel like something is missing. I'm generally not satisfied with my life. I want it to be more than just "good".

I'm lazy. I want to work out but decide not to for no reason at all. I need to study or do homework but simply put it off. People ask me why I'm not at the head of the class, and I just tell them that I'm lazy. Maybe it's my lack of motivation that upsets me. I've tried learning the guitar more than once and just stopped for no reason at all. I spend so much of my time doing nothing. I'm trying to think of reasons why I don't do the things I WANT to do.

I'm not depressed, I'm actually quite happy, but I want to make the most out of my life. I feel like I'm at 50%. It saddens me that my life is already good now and can be so much better. Have any of you guys felt the same way or have been in the same boat as me? What can help me be more efficient and actually become the person I want to be.

The obvious answer is that I need to work, but once I start working I quit.

Eh? :cuss:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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penkitten

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you describe how you drop hobbies like bill cosby described kids on the cosby show.
the things you start, then get no motivation, so you stop... are things you did not enjoy. you only started them, thinking you were interested and then found out that you were not.
the trick is to find out what does interest you for more than a minute.
that will motivate you a heck of alot more than finding something random to try out.

just because you don't like to work out or play the guitar doesn't mean anything.

perhaps you would rather be playing basketball, or maybe you would rather be skateboarding.

however work, is another issue all together. once you start a job and then stop real fast, you are labeled as a job swaper.
give a job a chance before you stop it. learn everything you can while you are there.
every job has its ups and downs... but even being chuck e cheese pays off with a paycheck and some free pizza and people applaud you just for coming out for ten minutes every hour.
 

young_gun

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Don't quit trying to play guitar. I have 3 now, and I still consider them the best money I've ever spent. Once you start to get really good with it, you won't want to put it down. :rockon:

PLUS it's a GREAT way to get a chick back to your place.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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