"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not many places for dates + Can't drive.

Grimple

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So I have been talking to this girl. We talk in class a little bit, and one day I sat by her and talked a little bit, initiated some kino. All that good stuff. I just talked to her for a few mins on myspace, and I can tell she is really into me. I ended the conversation and told her I would see her tomorrow. Anyway, I guess the next thing I should do is ask for her number, but I also want to ask her on a date. Do you think it matters in which order I do this? The only thing is.. there's no realy place to take a date.. except for movies.. which is pretty lame, and I can't drive. :/ Having my mom drive me around would be all time embaressing, so I was thinking I could maybe MEET her up there or something. Or idk.. does that seem lame or has anyone else done this?

My friend used to go out with this chick, and even when they were dating she kind of made a lot of eye contact with me, but we never really started talking until they broke up. My friend absolutely hates her, and is going after another chick, so he said it's basically cool if I hook up with her. I learned a little bit about her from her last relationship. He had her in the palm of his hands for awhile, he was an ******* and had her right where he wanted, like they had a huge fight, and all he really needed to do was a show a little more nicenest (he had already done the ******* part) but he just ignored her, until she finally broke up with him. So basically, she likes confident and jerky guys.. which I have done a pretty good job of maintaining. But yeah, I'm kind of just rambling on. I think her interest level is pretty high, but just a few days ago I was convinced she had massive attraction for someone else.. she was talking about this other guy [mike] and seemed all excited to see him. I assume he must had done something really AFC, she kind of stopped talking about him. But I don't know if she still likes him, last I checked she liked him more than me. But basically I'm just asking for some advice and guidance, and what exactly I should do. Thanks fellow DJs =]
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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PocketGnome

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Get her number on a friday, wait all weekend, and call her on the next monday or tuesday.
 

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First of all, you should get to know of she is really even interested in you or if she's just playing with you (chances are she is). My opinion would be she is a "no-no", especaily when she previously went out with your friend. But if that is no problem then i'd suggest to take the time to get to know this girl first, know what she's like, how did she handle her previous boyfriends? (meaning was she 'too easy'), does she even like you? All those things you need to find out, before you get her # and then ask her on a date..I'd say you have to take your time on this one. Cause' if not, you might as well just be skydiving without a parachute.
 
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