"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not looking down after eye contact---

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I know I have read over and over again from dating "experts" and others that after you establish eye contact with a woman, NEVER LOOK DOWN since as a male is signifies SUBMISSIVENESS and PASSIVENESS.

Well I think they have a point....


I went for running today and the last mile I walked (this was in a Reservoir through the woods).

Along comes an HB8 tall brunette (late 20's) walking with an older woman.

I make a point to look right in the eye and say hi as she walks by.

She smiles and shyly LOOKED DOWN after are eyes met.

Her looking down made her seem PASSIVE AND SUBMISSIVE, which are ATTRACTIVE traits to have as a woman, and it made me feel DOMINANT.

Now, let's reverse the role.

You make eye contact with a girl and then YOU look down.

Again, a sign of submissiveness, inferiority, intimidation and passiveness.

NOT MASCULINE TRAITS and it will turn her off.

So.......

For God's sake and I know it is easier said than done.

Let her look away or look down FIRST!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I'm trying to get better at this. I've made it a goal to never be the one to look away first. It is a habit for me to look away and unless I'm conscious of what I'm doing I revert back to looking away. I've gotten some possible IOI's just from holding that gaze, but it could just be general friendliness. I think the main thing is being personable.
 

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goodfoot said:
I'm trying to get better at this. I've made it a goal to never be the one to look away first. It is a habit for me to look away and unless I'm conscious of what I'm doing I revert back to looking away. I've gotten some possible IOI's just from holding that gaze, but it could just be general friendliness. I think the main thing is being personable.
Try not to just like stare. That's a bit creepy. Try and like catch glances, if you know what I mean, and smile and if possible you might as well wave. I'm trying this right now and I've gotten some positive feed back.
 

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Frayzer said:
Try not to just like stare. That's a bit creepy. Try and like catch glances, if you know what I mean, and smile and if possible you might as well wave. I'm trying this right now and I've gotten some positive feed back.
I don't think I described it well. I'm pretty much doing what you described. I'm not staring people down. It is a couple seconds at most.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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