The year I got out of college, my college relationship of 2.5 years ended miserably, and I went home to struggle in the crappy job market for about a year. I was having sex everyday for 2.5 years to none, and there are no girls where I live. Some of my friends were luckier than me and had jobs so they could live as yuppies in the trendier section of town near the bars and college area, giving them access to action. I, however, live 17 miles away in the suburbs where we grew up, no women but jailbait and moms. My jobless friends and I would hang out in the apartment of my more successful friends and would drink every weekend and I somehow had a success streak of hooking up with a girl once a month for 4 months or so, something I’ve never done before. It could be I’m starting to get this DJ thing in a lot of ways, but I have nowhere to use what I know. Time has passed and my friends in the city eventually got steady girlfriends and are less inclined to want to party anymore. They are getting whipped and I have less and less chances of getting to be near where the action is, because they do less and less. Other friends have moved for various reasons and my whole social life is evaporating. I spend 2/3 of every weekend alone at my parent’s home playing computer games like a nerdy middle school kid again. The other 1/3 I drive great distances all over the state to occasionally hang out with old friends from college or high school. ½ of the time there aren’t girls around and if there are they’re in relationships or ugly or not interested or I’ll be tired from the week or something always goes wrong it seems. It really, really sucks to have lots of action and then suddenly have none, even though I haven’t gotten uglier or forgotten how to be ****y and funny.
I finally have a first real job with benefits, but I’m not in a rush to move out because I want to get some savings built up and the pay is rather modest, $20,000/year but there could be some upward mobility, eventually. It seems so low I don’t think any girl would really want to be my girlfriend, but while I’m just looking for random hook ups, they don’t have to know that... When I’m out in public like at work and stuff I notice girls/women will give me the eye sometimes, but its usually not the place and time to make any moves. All of the women I work with are married.
I feel like I’m stranded in a breeding ground with no one to breed with, what can I do? These seem to be my choices:
1. Irritate my friends by inviting myself to their places with various success. Some only communicate via text and often they don’t answer.
2. Move out in June when one of my friends moves out of where most of my friends currently live, but this involves 6 months of wasting time. I haven’t worked there long enough to know if I can even do that. If my car were to randomly die I’d be fvcked.
I feel like I’m wasting my better years in a playpen. My Friday and Saturday nights seem to be totally wasted and I now dread weekends for that reasons and that's messed up! My biggest DJ problem now is locating myself in an area where there are women, or young people in general. I know I couldn’t be the only person in this situation, given the DEPRESSION we’re in.
I finally have a first real job with benefits, but I’m not in a rush to move out because I want to get some savings built up and the pay is rather modest, $20,000/year but there could be some upward mobility, eventually. It seems so low I don’t think any girl would really want to be my girlfriend, but while I’m just looking for random hook ups, they don’t have to know that... When I’m out in public like at work and stuff I notice girls/women will give me the eye sometimes, but its usually not the place and time to make any moves. All of the women I work with are married.
I feel like I’m stranded in a breeding ground with no one to breed with, what can I do? These seem to be my choices:
1. Irritate my friends by inviting myself to their places with various success. Some only communicate via text and often they don’t answer.
2. Move out in June when one of my friends moves out of where most of my friends currently live, but this involves 6 months of wasting time. I haven’t worked there long enough to know if I can even do that. If my car were to randomly die I’d be fvcked.
I feel like I’m wasting my better years in a playpen. My Friday and Saturday nights seem to be totally wasted and I now dread weekends for that reasons and that's messed up! My biggest DJ problem now is locating myself in an area where there are women, or young people in general. I know I couldn’t be the only person in this situation, given the DEPRESSION we’re in.
