Not letting go.

[LittleRiverBand]

I have a problem that's been mentioned briefly in other threads but I'm not sure if others may or may not have the same problem so I'll post it anyway.

I have a tendency to not let go in my mind. Like if a girl rejected me in the past at school years ago or on the internet even years ago I wonder "what are they up to?" I don't stalk them per say because it's just in my head or behind the computer, but it's like someone else said in another thread that it becomes a recycle bin of sorts of past prospects that never got deleted and I keep restoring.

Sometimes I"ll message the girls every few months when I get lonely and desperate thinking "Wouldn't it be cool if I won them over?" Then immediately after sending the message I regret it and know that she isn't going to respond and that it's unhealthy.

The good news is I'm finally out in the field approaching and have confidence approaching and am getting results, but I still can't manage to just forget about past targets. While the only real harm I'm doing is to myself, I'm wondering if this is a common thing around here or if this is some kind of compulsion problem.

Note: These women are usually 6s, or women that were once hot but are now 6s or ugly. In other words, I wouldn't want them even if they were to for some reason want to get together with me. It's just a bad habit that I have yet to let go of.

 

[Allurre]

It's just a habit of yours that can be suppressed.

Start countering your habit now but telling yourself "I'm only wasting my precious time daydreaming about them"

"It's a lost cause. Time to move on, there's no benefit in occupying myself with thoughts of them."

"The past, is the past. Time to shape a better future."

 

[Commandante]

Look, everybody want´s to be accepted and get positive feedback (except the psychos). If you are waiting for acceptance of others, than you have a big problem. Because you can´t be the person everybody likes. No one is. Because this person doesn´t exist. But if you accept yourself and your own feedback is the most important for you, than you are on the right way. Chicks like guys who are satisfied with themself and notice if you try to act like something more than you are. That´s why self improvement is an importent part of the GAME.

Ugly people telling themself: "im fvckin´pretty" will stay ugly and end up as a crazy freak. Ugly people telling themself: "im ugly, but I start hit the gim right now" will say after 12 month: "I was ugly, but I´m pretty now. And I´m still getting more pretty. Bloody hell, I have done it! I´m great! Hey everybody, I´m great! Do you hear HB6? You missed a great guy 12 month ago!"

So move on, but into the right direction!

 

[I'm in the Mood]

Man you are being way too hard on yourself...you talk to girls you've gamed in the past because you're lonely and desperate?
Honestly I think you just want some female company so you feel like you're not as bad as you think you are with women. If you next a girl and drop the majority of any romantic/sexual feelings you felt towards her, it can be awesome to make friends with the girl. Female friends are incredibly powerful for your overall game, in fact, I'd say it's essential for a Don Juan to have female friends.

What you have is something I call Ghost-oneitis, and it happens to a lot of guys. There's nothing wrong with feeling attached to ideas that make you happy, but you gotta control your attachment and accept a failure as a personal victory. The fact is many guys have trouble letting go, but if you learn to let things go easily on the outside, then you're that far ahead of all of those guys who can't let go. Think of it this way - it's just a feeling. Are you gonna let a little feeling get in your way of succeeding? I doubt it!