Not Interested in Sex

[STR8UP]

Exactly right. That is exactly what's happening. There's always Viagra until the real problem is figured out. But I just don't have the *desire* for sex. I'm glad you know what I'm talking about. Do you get tired of having to service them though?

I don't spin a bunch of plates, so i don't have that much sex to begin with, but yes, I feel like I am "servicing" them.

And it doesn't make matters any better that I haven't shared any kind of emotional connection with any of the women I have been with in the past couple of years. THAT makes a huge difference.

This might even be part of the problem. I was very much physically and emotionally attracted to my ex g/f, the sex was mind blowing, I got it whenever I wanted it, she was open to trying new things, willing to let me take the lead. She was hot and the sex was amazing. Maybe everything pales in comparison?

And it doesn't help when you are about to fukk a chick for the first time and you go to take a piss in her bathroom and there's a big purple dildo standing at attention on her counter. At that point I pretty much knew that I was nothing more than a human dildo to her, which turned out to be true.

Or the married chick I fukked a couple of times awhile back. She loved it, of course, but I knew that it was what it was, and I wasn't even THAT attracted to her.

Have you ever thought about the fact that you might not be as into it as you think you should be due to the fact that you aren't that attracted to these women, especially on an emotional level?

 

[Mr.Positive]

Assess your diet and exercise (if you take it - if not, start). The modern western diet and lifestyle can be VERY unfriendly to the male sex hormones, which at 34 should still be going fairly strong (maybe ironically, it benefits estrogen production among other things) - things start 'slowing down' hormonally in your mid thirties, but to have no desire whatsoever isn't normal.

Call me a meathead, but Viagra is a cop-out unless you're 60 or have some genuine hormonal malfunction. Some people may have a real need for it, but it's just another way for people to cash in on people's substandard health levels.

There's plenty of talk on here about how the modern world is 'feminising' men through societal/economic constraints and conventions, but people rarely mention the (negative) impact the modern world has on male physiology (and to human physiology in general, but men suffer more from it). To me at least, being a man is just as much a physiological thing as it is psychological.

(And no, I'm not saying eating huge amounts of red meat and throwing iron about with careless abandon is the answer to everything, but it damn well helps - and is especially important for older guys)

Exactly, great advise Warboss.

Heavy squats, and deadlifts, will increase testosterone levels. That's a fact. Low reps, high weight. The body adapts to it's environment. Just as if you go into battle, you will have no shortage of testosterone pumping through your veins. A high sex drive will follow like a loyal puppy.

Add a good mulitivitamin, fish oil, and a high protein and healthy fat diet will help a lot. Also, make sure you have enough zinc in your diet.

Follow this advise, and I guarantee that your sex drive will increase. Though, you still have the question of whether the sex is worth the drama that often accompanies it.

 

[thedeparted]

And it doesn't help when you are about to fukk a chick for the first time and you go to take a piss in her bathroom and there's a big purple dildo standing at attention on her counter.

:crackup:

Sorry, that's fvcking hilarious. But I've been there. This girl, after I kissed her goodnight, she's like, "Now I get to maul you, right?" I'm like, "Excuse me?" I wish I had a big purple vibrator to hand her as I sent her home...

The emotional connection is also missing though, you're right. I know too much about these girls and they are common wenches in my opinion. They're reckless, stupid and banal, and they talk too damn much. So I don't feel any real connection with them. They just aren't the elegant, reserved, intellectual, beautiful, passionate type that I'm programmed to fall for.

As I sit here typing this I realize that I was just being lazy in hoping that what I would be happy with what I've got. In reality, I have to keep on looking. In fact, I'm being a putz by avoiding the LJBF's and probably an attention wh0re by letting them chase me. Sucks, b/c I feel like any other guy would be satisfied in this situation and my standards are just too high and old fashioned. But what else am I gonna do at this point?

 

[thedeparted]

Exactly, great advise Warboss.

Heavy squats, and deadlifts, will increase testosterone levels. That's a fact. Low reps, high weight. The body adapts to it's environment. Just as if you go into battle, you will have no shortage of testosterone pumping through your veins. A high sex drive will follow like a loyal puppy.

Add a good mulitivitamin, fish oil, and a high protein and healthy fat diet will help a lot. Also, make sure you have enough zinc in your diet.

Follow this advise, and I guarantee that your sex drive will increase. Though, you still have the question of whether the sex is worth the drama that often accompanies it.

This is awesome! I'm actually a health freak and you're preaching to the choir. I used to live in the gym and would love to do that stuff again but it's restricted for now (don't ask). I'm just recovering from a medical problem and if all goes well things will eventually get back to normal. But I love to see other guys who are equally well informed about diet and exercise.

 

[Ballie]

Exactly, great advise Warboss.

Heavy squats, and deadlifts, will increase testosterone levels. That's a fact. Low reps, high weight. The body adapts to it's environment. Just as if you go into battle, you will have no shortage of testosterone pumping through your veins. A high sex drive will follow like a loyal puppy.

Add a good mulitivitamin, fish oil, and a high protein and healthy fat diet will help a lot. Also, make sure you have enough zinc in your diet.

Follow this advise, and I guarantee that your sex drive will increase. Though, you still have the question of whether the sex is worth the drama that often accompanies it.

That's exactly what I found. If you an older guy like me, this will increase your testosterone sufficiently to make you perform twenty years younger, a zinc, magnesuim supplement like ZMA also helps. Now I'm eating well and with a regular gym weights program of 18 months have no complaints from the women - but are these young porker's worth it? Nah

 

[SoCalMike]

Eventually you get to a point in your life where you realize that;

A) Pu$$y is pu$$y. Some might be tighter or prettier than others, but at the end of the day its just a wet hole you stick your pee-pee in

Not even close. I've had women who can make me cVm 4 or 5 times in a night, then others where I go limp as a noodle.

Some women are far more attractive than others. If your statement were true, fat chicks would get pursued almost as much as 10's.

 

[SoCalMike]

I wonder, are there any guys here who like me lost interest in sex?

The problem now becomes that women pester *you* for it and you are like, not tonight, dear. The ones with low esteem feel rejected and think they are unattractive. The hotter ones with higher esteem just chase you harder. It's like the perfect way to catch a ten.

Hopefully this is a temporary situation (health related). But I'm interested in any guys in a similar situation and what you do about the women. I still like having women around for stuff like watching movies, cooking dinner, etc, I just don't feel like fvcking them, it feels like a chore. But how do you wind things up for the night without validating them that way? It's turning into a problem...

Haha, dude are you serious? You think hot girls have trouble getting laid and you rejecting them is going to make them chase you harder? :crackup:

They may put up with that for a little while, but eventually they'll get tired of your limp ****ed ass and look elsewhere.