"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Not giving HBs the special attention

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There's a HB9 (slight attention seeker) whom i am sure she is all over me (used DJ things on her, k-closed). I call her no more than she called me and in fact she asked me out for a movies this saturday. (our day 4) It is when we set up the date i never contact her again (because i was busy and intend to leave the talks to saturday).

She Contacted me today, and i was busy and told her i will call you later (I was really busy). And she suddenly sounds a bit disappointed and say okay in an unhappy mood. Called her an hour later and she says she's busy and call me back later.. (day before, she said she was upset, and i never ask why, and just say "take care and have an early rest, bye") :rock:

I mean, what's wrong with her? Should i really ask caring questions to her? :crazy:

I kept a gap so as to give one another breathing space. and apparently i think she wants me to ask her "Why are you behaving this way? Are you okay? Shall we meet up now?" which most AFCs would do.

I notice some girls cannot take the DJ method. They (especially attention seekers.) tend to explode when they met us...

They are not used to "losing their power" to guys. And will try to show hardball game and regain back her power... Oh well..

How do you manage these girls?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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yeah you were basically ignoring her. its all right though most insecure women like that ****. makes her life more interesting. she'll be all over you.
 
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I generally try to avoid games in the beginning and progress naturally until I see games are being played on the other end. It seems maybe that's what she's doing... trying to keep the respect/power balanced. Now that's it's off like this, try not to let it turn into a downward spiral or whirlwind of events because you can just as easily lose her by not giving her ENOUGH respect. It's a market out there, and if she can find a guy just as good looking and fun who gives her more respect, she will take him. She may be intrigued at you not giving into her every whims at first, but as she gets closer, the intrigue will lessen as she eventually discovers no evident reason to back up the more challenging behavior (the challenge behavior generally indicates you have good things going for you).
 
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bossdog said:
yeah you were basically ignoring her. its all right though most insecure women like that ****. makes her life more interesting. she'll be all over you.
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Yeah, she is ALREADY all over him. The question is...someday he will want to get laid. And ignoring her 24/7 won't get him there.
 
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Latinoman said:
Yeah, she is ALREADY all over him. The question is...someday he will want to get laid. And ignoring her 24/7 won't get him there.
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I'm not ignoring her, its just that she's making all the first moves recently, and i respond accordingly to her first moves.

Seems like the case i should be slightly more proactive. Thanks~
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Latinoman said:
Yeah, she is ALREADY all over him. The question is...someday he will want to get laid. And ignoring her 24/7 won't get him there.
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And you would think guys would readily realize that, but alas....
 
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Francisco d'Anconia

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I'm not ignoring her, its just that she's making all the first moves recently, and i respond accordingly to her first moves.

Seems like the case i should be slightly more proactive. Thanks~
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Be careful of about being on the defensive and always following her lead.
 
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The only concern may be that she thinks i'm not interested and moved on.

I'll just call her later to confirm the date details.

(I'm overanalyzing, that's bad)
 
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You know, there are some special rules to the HB9-10's (and as always, that rating is purely opinion) but there are a few really good ones out there that don't take to games. You REALLY have to watch your moves in this case as they typically weed through BS very quickly and with little feedback.

It's a high-risk game that's not necessarily about a power-play. Sure, it comes off like that but it's really just because they've usually got a pretty thick hide-- wouldn't you if women mercilessly hit on you everyday?

In the future, tread-lightly and tone down the games until she proves the situation to demand otherwise.
 
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there are no special rules for any girl because of her looks. dont believe that bull****.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You played it okay, but I would have tried the date first and then played a little harder to get later. Seems to me she recognized your game and she threw her own game playing back at you. Don't be available all the time, but just like if she wants to spend time with you she will and same goes for you. Hopefully, she didn't move on because of being too attention seeking. Keep us posted.
 
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