Not flirty/touchy feely

[Rhino22]

Ok, so I met this girl online not too long ago. We seemed to hit it off online then on the phone, etc. We met and had a date and honestly I think she is just ok looking. Fine enough to have sex with for a while. Um so she is really shy I guess but only around "people that aren't creepy." I think she feels uncomfortable around me because she thinks I'm too good looking for her or sometrhing.

So we have now hung out three times. The first two times we did not fool around or anything. Last night I sit right by her on the couch even though she is acting kind of stand offish (and she has told me she does this). She wouldn't even look at me at this point and then we started talking about the awkwardness of it lol...(I know this sounds ridiculous). She even said after last weekend, she really enjoyed hanging out with me but after she didn't hear from me for a few days she was MAD and figured I wasn't interested in her. Even though I had told her I am a busy guy(which I am). I guess it goes to show you you can't take all the advice you get on this forum! lol Then she said I'm not very flirty/touchy feely so it was hard for her to tell. Well, don't most girls give you a sign that they are receptive or want you to be touchy flirty? I mean, she just acted kind of standoffish/timid. She has told me numerous times about how she was so nervous when she met me and still gets nervous. I guess in a way she isn't the kind of girl I would normally go for I find her average looking). So maybe if I was with someone I found really freakin hot I would be more touchy. I don't know.

Um so later on I said she should lay down by me and she did...then we made out for a long time and almost had sex. She kept saying that I have to "be good" but I got very close to having sex with her. The o nly thing that stopped us was the fact that she's on the rag.

My question is what the hell is wrong with me? Or is it her?

She even laughs alot at my jokes, I smile at her, but she tells me she doesn't even like to look at me because it makes her nervous. Am I just too good for this girl or what?

 

[Ease]

Sometimes girls say things and we are too quick to question ourselves and overthink. I feel it comes from self insecurity.

She sits there awkwardly and then says that she finds it weird that you arent very touchy feely. Id want to say 'wtf, you're the one acting like you have HIV'

However, on another note, you should always be touchy feely and kino to escalate and hype up attraction on early dates/interactions. Complaining you arent flirty enough reflects badly on your own game.

Id say its more that she is pretty weird. Next time she says something like 'im nervous about looking you in the eye', say what the hell and ask her if she has a phobia of males.

 

[Rhino22]

Well, yeah I know but usually girls will give you some kind of sign that they will be receptive to you touching them/flirting whatever. Before I even met her she actually told me that she has been told she is "unapproachable and closed off."

I think it's probably her. But when do you usually start the touching with a female? And what kind of touching exactly?