"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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not everybody can be michael jordan - a thread about PERSPECTIVE

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howdy,

and not everyone can be a rocket scientist. and not everyone can be gary kaparov.

pick up and djing and attracting women IS INDEED A SKILL that can be learned as dave deangelo says.

but NOBODY is cut out to be good at every skill. and unlike all the gurus around here, i proclaim that IT IS NOT A MARK AGAINST YOUR CHARACTER if you are unsuccessful with women.

just as it is not a reflection on your character if you're not michael jordan.

i've always had an objection with inextricably tying success with women to CHARACTER... my previous argument is that they are SEPARATE... that a guy can be a total dipshyt but if he has a certain combination of characteristics (looks included), he can do phenomenally well with women. and we can be really great guys but somehow have success with women elude us.

but i've realized that a better argument is that it is simply a skill and whether you are good or bad at it does not make you more or less of a man - just as the inability to do calculus does not make you less of a person.

many of us omega males can do things, have knowledge and possess skills that alpha males cannot even imagine. and depending on what it is that you do, it is DIFFICULT TO IMAGINE a lay person just applying themselves and getting as good as you in a brief period of time.

how long would it take for the guy at the gas station to learn your skills and operate with the surety that your years of experience has earned you?

and yet, regarding the skill of pick up, we feel like it's quick and easy to learn... hmmm....
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and yet, the human race has gotten on.

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this is not an argument against learning the dj stuff. it's important and even though you may never be gary kasparov, you can still have fun playing chess with your friends.

hell, even learning the worst errors of chess will keep you from making moves that make you look like a chump. so education is valuable.

but this is an argument that we should not place so much pressure on ourselves and be so utterly disappointed when we have not achieved sex nirvana yet.

and also take pride in all the things that you DO know and CAN do. for not everyone can do what you do either.

delta
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bravo, great post delta

Michael jordan is black and blackguys and latinoguys get girls unlike us whiteboys
But alot of us black guys and latino guys want the type of whitegirls that you whiteboys always get... Everyting is relative ;)


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thanks....

another idea-

be the best of WHAT YOU ARE.

NOT

try to be what you are not.

i gotta think about that one....

delta
 
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