Not easy being an attractive looking guy

[Gatorade23]

Hey. I just came for some advice. I've got a good group of friends that I hang around, some I work with, some I don't. Now I don't mean this is an arrogant way, but I'm extremely attractive. But most of my friends (who are less attractive) seem to have an easier time with woman. And no, it isn't my personality. I'm really outgoing, just like them. But girls always seem to be able to talk to them easier, laugh around, etc. But when they talk to me, it's like they have no interest at all, some won't even talk to me. It kinda sucks. Guys will be all over an attractive looking woman, but woman will give attractive guys FAR less attention. Why?

 

[SheepSter]

Basically because the good looks sets a challenge for them. But you're wrong about the "far less attention". If you look good you'll see a lot of IOI's thrown in your way. Best thing to do is become open. Meaning take everything very lighty, have fun and don't think too much.

Try this: Next time you're out with your friends and some girl looks your way, smile. Most guys don't realize that they're thinking too much and look like tense uncool dudes. You see good looks will help alot but you got to give of the right playfull vibe.

And that the girls don't seem interested is probably because you're doing something wrong. I'll bet it's the bodylanguage, or your too much inwardly focussed instead of 0utwardly.

 

[Gatorade23]

Well one of my friends overheard a few girls talking about me. That they thought I was a player. Now I'm kinda ****y, but so are my friends. I'm not a "player", how would these girls know anyway? They should label my friends players too. It just erks me.

 

[Double]

whats up with all those pathetic guys whining that they are too good looking? grow some balls or i mess up your face to end your problem.

 

[Double]

oh, i heard girls talking the same about me. and what is bad about it now? it's only positive for both LTR and ONS. only very insecure women will run away from a player, all others like it.

 

[Layla]

Hey bro,

Im also an attractive guy and i used to sort of have the same problem as you. I would always hear that a girl thought i was hot, but she would never talk to me.

I found out that the girls of my school thought i was anti social or gay. So then i started being more social and friendy and they all opened up.

 

[sapphire]

Another thing I would hear is that women would think I am stuck up or arrogant just based on my looks. Being good looking automatically places you in a seperate category it seems so that the insecure and less confident women will refrain from talking to you even though they may like you.

I agree therefore that opening up and making yourself to be just an ordinary person will in turn cause these other women to do likewise.

 

[sexual_intellectual]

When you see a girl you like - depending on context - approach her and start chatting with her - ask her for her number.

If she's available and into you, she'll be happy to talk to you. If you get the number, ask her on a date.

If you're good looking and aren't getting the success you want, you're doing something wrong. Find out what it is (could be as simple as not making the first move, or sounding really nervous), and stop doing it.

Enough of your "I'm too sexy to attract women" tales of woe. They don't cut it here.

 

[sapphire]

Good looking + Shy/Passive = limited results

Average/ugly looking + Outgoing/Proactive = limited results

Good looking + Outgoing/Proactive = unstoppable

Ugly looking + Shy/Passive = no results

 

[MindOverMatter]

nah. if a girl finds you attractive, she will go out of her way to get your attention. it sounds to me like you just weren't their type.

just because you are attractive doesn't mean they will find you attractive. women have higher standards then men, and each one of them has different tastes. maybe they dont like your body, your style of dressing, your height, your hair color, etc, whatever. it doesn't matter, what matters is, you have to realize that each girl will have a different opinion concerning your appearance, and that you can't please all of them.

 

[jago25_98]

Try looking ugly somehow; rough haircut or something

Try to give the impression of bad exterior with a good interior. And go for the best looking girls perhaps.

If your mates are like me they'll probably go for girls with some connection; friend of a friend.
Maybe you need to play it different, like a proper DJ. i.e. you catch some girl looking at you, so you get her number

 

[California Love]

You just think you are good looking and the everything in the world will be handed to you on a silver platter. By hoping that eveything will somehow come to you on its own, you are making yourself useless and a waste to society. If you are good looking, then power to ya. You need to go and approach the women whom you desire. If you simply hope to get chosen, you will get the sh1ttiest, most agressive and manipulative women out there.

 

[HHloser2]

I want pics.

 

[Spacebar]

lol
Again, not to sound arrogant or anything, but I’m considered good looking and I get this problem too. Some girls are intimated, some might not just like my personality and approach too (which I’m working on changing) It’s a little bit of everything.

But I mean its simple, just use your good looks to your advantage. Go up to girls and talk, your good looks are a nice welcome to them and they will be interested from the start. Heck, it don’t even really matter what you say. You’ll get their number if they want you.

 

[I-am-someone]

Same here. I've always had consequent EC with girls in my class, for the last several years (even back when I wore glasses).
At first I was intimidated by it, thinking there was something wrong with me. Then I got used to it and just accepted it. Every year, half way through, the girls would stop giving me eyecontact and just give up.

I'm facing the same things as you are, but I'm trying to change my bad inner-circuitry to something that will work right. Right now I'm just going for the "just be social with everybody I see" approach. I've also been imagining approaching a girl in the mirror, although that doesn't really make it feel like you're in reality.

My personal biggest problem is, how do I have confidence in my game when I know that it's only so-so? I've had times where I had great game and the girl had an IL going through the roof, but that isn't nearly always the case.

 

[ScrewIt]

Originally posted by Gatorade23
Well one of my friends overheard a few girls talking about me. That they thought I was a player. Now I'm kinda ****y, but so are my friends. I'm not a "player", how would these girls know anyway? They should label my friends players too. It just erks me.

i know where you're coming from, the same has happened to me in the past where both sexes labeled me on assumption.

I wouldnt see it as a bad thing, its a positive thing. girls dont like to admit it, but they like players. Plus there's nothing wrong with having a little reputation around school.

Sounds like a case of intimidation. Try less on improving your looks and more on your personality, only until then will you be treated as a person and as an equal.

 

[frivolousz21]

this is absolutely rediculous.


If I hear one more time that "my good looks....is hindering my game..well I wont do ****..Im in STL.

your looks arent hurting ur game

you are hurting ur game