NOT burning bridges: beneficial or hurtful from memories?

[j8snx1]

There's a post a few posts down from this one saying that burning bridges with past girls is not such a good idea, simply because it leaves options open for LTR's and f-closes. However, is it such a good idea to begin with?

So for example, let's say I date and break up with like 5 girls this year. I manage to keep their numbers and stay in communcation with all 5 of them for the next...1-3 years. Given that amount of time, will that give me a better chance of hooking up with any of the 5 again in the future, or at least an f-close at some point? I could use some older DJ persuasion on the whole "dont burn bridges" concept because I'm curious if I can manage to hook up with any of my ex's or failed attempts in the long run.

And how would this be helpful to a girl that I've had an LTR with? My recent Ex-gf scarred me, esp. since she gave me a plausible reason for breaking up (her family issues n stress which i couldnt help but believe because i knew her situation fully) and then hooking up with another guy right afterwards. would you dj's not burn the bridge with this girl after she does something like that

 

[jack knife]

I think if anything this is more of a guideline than a rule. Crazy-psycho-ex-girlfriend is probably a bridge you can afford to burn down.

 

[Hawke]

I think you've got to use some common sense with the idea of not burning bridges.

I mean if you finish with someone and your ok with being around them, then that's someone who you don't cut ties with. While someone who really annoys you in some sense or is psycho then that is someone i feel you do cut ties with. Basic i know, but the idea is just to do what is common sense.

 

[skip2mylou781]

There's a post a few posts down from this one saying that burning bridges with past girls is not such a good idea, simply because it leaves options open for LTR's and f-closes. However, is it such a good idea to begin with?

So for example, let's say I date and break up with like 5 girls this year. I manage to keep their numbers and stay in communcation with all 5 of them for the next...1-3 years. Given that amount of time, will that give me a better chance of hooking up with any of the 5 again in the future, or at least an f-close at some point? I could use some older DJ persuasion on the whole "dont burn bridges" concept because I'm curious if I can manage to hook up with any of my ex's or failed attempts in the long run.

And how would this be helpful to a girl that I've had an LTR with? My recent Ex-gf scarred me, esp. since she gave me a plausible reason for breaking up (her family issues n stress which i couldnt help but believe because i knew her situation fully) and then hooking up with another guy right afterwards. would you dj's not burn the bridge with this girl after she does something like that

Here's my view on what you said - if she hooked up with another guy RIGHT after u, then u shoulda totally let it roll off ur back and i bet that woulda pissed her off in a i cant believe hes not jealous!! way. Burn a bridge only if the girl is a)a threat to your life or b)a threat to your social life. IF the girl
"scarred" u, u dont wanna burn that bridge....dont cut all contact with her, as you WILL get over it eventually and then u can call her up and i gaurantee if u say heyyyyyyy long time no talk, she'll b happy and u can pimp on her again.

PERSONAL EXPERIENCE - 2 ex's come to mind - one was 3 years ago, one was 2 years ago - Each one i loved - each one dumped me and hurt me - i burned the bridge with each one rite away cutting off all communication - and with both, after bout a year, I didnt care anymore and i just happened to have their #s, so logn story short, i called to say hi how u doin, chilled, and 1 i have been ****in ever since once every few montsh and the other i ended up making out with again once (but then i burned the bridge again lol)

so, not burning a bridge and playin it cool will prob get u old *****

but this applies to RANDOM girls too who flaked on u or w/e....show them ur cool and nothin phases u, and they will b less flaky (cuz a girl mite liek u (which is why she made a date with u in the first place) but will flake for variosu reasons....and not burning the bridge will keep her hangin around and make her less flaky in the near future

 

[lYlasTer]

Simple.

If it REALLY bothers you if you shee her with anotehr guy, burn the bridge

If not, then keep her.

I don't keep contact with any of my ex's because I had strong feelings for them. But girls I randomly hook up with, it's better to keept hem around.

 

[poohead]

my ex broke up six months ago but she's starting to flirt w me again

 

[j8snx1]

hmmmm...overall I understand what you guys say

Her being with some other dude doesn't bother me at all; it was her loss she had a good thing going for her. Anyway, I'll probably keep in contact with her and live liiiiife because college is only a few months away guys!! One day I'll probably chat with her, but as for now I could care less.

Thanks for the help guys.