"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If a guy hasn't dated or had a girlfriend since he was 14, has always been to scared to even approach pretty girls with a conversation, and has only ever gotten as far as kissing (Im talking about quick pecks on the lips not full blown making out.) Can he still make it seem like he knows what he is doing when he asks a girl out/dating her/escalating with her?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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^This.

In the unlikely event that she comments on some awkwardness during the physical escalation stage that you were unable to hide, just lie and pull the "dry spell" card. "My last relationship was six mo (or a year) ago."

Being a little "rusty" because you got busy with work or school and haven't dated in a while is forgivable.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If a guy hasn't dated or had a girlfriend since he was 14, has always been to scared to even approach pretty girls with a conversation, and has only ever gotten as far as kissing (Im talking about quick pecks on the lips not full blown making out.) Can he still make it seem like he knows what he is doing when he asks a girl out/dating her/escalating with her?
She will only know if you tell her. Key to it is to stay calm and don't get too thirsty.

No two people are 100 % compatable in the beginning and there will be a little bit of awkwardness as you two figure eachother out. Chicks know this too. It isn't a huge deal. Relax. Stay calm, and go with the flow. Escalate, and gain that experience.
 
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