not another looks thread....

[KneghtRyder]

this is not another looks thread......



but do you agree with this :"your looks" or "her attraction to your looks"
will at least give you an audition or "open the door" to her , the rest
as you seduction gurus call it is "game, smooth talking about anything, confidence"


so what do you use to "open the door" or "get an audition" so to speak...


I mean, dressing better, some mentioned using expensive cars, or just opening her up
with out IOIs for example..or the hard road is only through improving your looks..


Maybe I am "barking up the wrong tree" so to speak ...maybe this is not so important?

 

[Obsidian]

you're barking up the wrong tree, so to speak. it's not important

 

[IsiMan84]

^ I'd beg to differ on that, solely because until you have opened your mouth she has no other thing to judge you by besides your looks. You get one chance to make a first impression and part of that is going to be your initial appearance. You can't tell me if somebody like Brad Pitt walked by he wouldn't at least stand out compared to some Shrek-looking ogres. In the case with some guys, all they have to do is just not say anything stupid and they're in like Flynn. A worse looking guy might have to work his way up to get the same girl. Even then, appearance aside, you're still gonna have to use the necessary game to get the girl in bed.

A good example is one of my friends who we tried to hook up with a girl that thought he was cute. His game is sub-par so he barely would talk to her most of that night, but me being a good friend I did most of the talking for him and they ended up making out anyways. Then he accidentally called the girl by her friend's name and she got mad and left. So until he screwed that up he really didn't have to do all that much work.

And say what you want but this is a looks thread haha.

 

[afc_2_dj]

Its an interesting question though, don't forget as unattractive guys we rarely if ever get IOI's, everyone advises look for a girl whose checking you out and approach, but if this were the case it would never happen!

I must say I would love to see a looks thread that does not turn into a flame war, but discusses the problems faced by guys that are not good-looking trying to compete with in a world filled with dark&handsome guys, and provide helpfull assistance and realist perspectives of our chances.

 

[afc_2_dj]

solely because until you have opened your mouth she has no other thing to judge you by besides your looks.

I agree, that's the problem we face, girls aren't interested in meeting you becuase there are plenty of better looking men around, why would they waste an evening talking to you when you may also turn out to be a loser as well as not good-looking [they don't know ur a DJ so why take the chance], the good-looking guys may also be a losers, but in light of the risk it makes more sense to first try the best looking guy, then work your way down.

So until he screwed that up he really didn't have to do all that much work.

The problem with looks threads is they turn into a flame war about whether good-looking guys will get girls throwing their panties at them on street corners or not. Who cares, everybody knows a good-looking guy will get girls, and if he is a serious loser the girl will drop him for another good-looking guy.

IMHO what should be fleshed out is OP's problem, and the issue of things like being in a club where most guys are better looking than you, etc.

 

[IsiMan84]

Yea he didn't really specify what he was trying to prove so I just kind of winged it.

 

[flows101]

Just look after your self, go to the gym, eat well, get a hair cut and it goes on and on while your doing all that APPROACH WOMEN and find out works for YOU.

 

[flows101]

sorry double post

 

[IsiMan84]

Yes and that confidence also comes with making yourself look the best you can possibly look. So even if you're not the greatest looking guy you still carry that aura of feeling good because you've done the best you can with yourself. Kinda like how you would feel more distinguished wearing a suit and tie than you would a pair of jeans and a t-shirt.