"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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KnockoutJM

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Hey everyone, I think i might have a problem.

So i have been with this girl for about 4 months, and we have tons of sex, and i never have a problem there, i just have "high endurance" but i can usually finish whenever i want. But when i get a HJ or BJ it just doesnt work. It feels great, but i just cant finish, and she usually says she gets tired, or asks to have sex.

I was wondering if anyone has had this problem, or knows how to fix it.

thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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EFFORT

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Stop jacking off and teach her how to give good bjs
 

floydtheater07

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I seem to have the same problem. I've gotten great BJ's, and many, but I have NEVER ejaculated from one. Ever. But, I have almost gotten there, and I think that relaxation helps. In sex, we are involved; when getting a BJ, we don't need to do anything, and for some guys that intereferes with the pleasure. We're too distracted by the idea that we should be doing something instead of enjoying ourselves.


At least, that's my idea.
 

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you poor souls.



it sounds psychological to me. mabye have sex more, and get more comfortable with everything. i know my first few times were really awkward and i couldnt bust a nut to save my life, the second time was really really awkward b/c there was no alcohol involved and i felt stupid the whole time. i didn't get off that time either.

Perhaps the whole situation isn't fun/playful enough for you? If it feels like a chore its pretty hard for me to even get a hard on, let alone perform.

Either that or as Effort says, set your standards a little higher!

I know the first time i got a bj... she used teeth, and lets just say it scarred me for life. not in the physical sense, mind you ;)
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Sure it may feel good, but if she really knows how to give a good bj then you should ***. I had the same problem and thought something was wrong with me then i came across a girl that really knew how to do it and was cumming in less than 5min. Thanks to her i know what works and can easily get a girl up to speed that sucks at sucking.
 

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I'm glad to see i'm not the only one. she always makes me feel like im about to, but i just cant do it. I think i fall into it like floydtheater, where since im not doing anything my mind distracts me and prevents me from doing it. But if i finger her or if she is playing with herself when doing i t i cvm so fast.
I really think my mind is what is messing me up with BJs
 

oakraiderz2

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KnockoutJM said:
I'm glad to see i'm not the only one. she always makes me feel like im about to, but i just cant do it.
1. Place hand on back of her head
2. Make her head bob faster
3. Nut in her mouth

Seriously though, you can speed things up but making her head move and...fvckin her mouth.
 

Crazy Asian

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is *** really censored?
 

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floydtheater07 said:
In sex, we are involved; when getting a BJ, we don't need to do anything, and for some guys that intereferes with the pleasure. We're too distracted by the idea that we should be doing something instead of enjoying ourselves.
Insightful post.

It helps to know when the the woman gets satisfaction, from your satisfaction.

It's all mental, saying "just enjoy the bj" is much different then just enjoying the bj. But, also remember, that if a woman really has high IL in you, she'll want you to remember the experience.

So, just know, that she wants to enjoy the fact that you are 'enjoying yourself'.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TheLadiesMan

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Some women can give head, and some can't. *shrugs*

ex-gf will go at it forever, without a single drop from me.... where as, another woman I know, can just simply "kiss it" and I bust a nut. lol!
 
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