Everyone cannot be a jerk because it is an artform. Its ok not to behave like one whn you are used to being "sweet" and "nice". You can, however, behave like you don't give a ****. THAT'S EASY!! She will feel you don't care and are disinterested in her many conversations. She will come to you MORE because she will now try harder to find someway you can listen to her or help her in HER time of need. See? Now you have women coming to you more because unlike those who are thoughtful 24/7, you act like you have better things to do and will NOT be interrupted all the time.