Not a good night...Need advice for next time!

[jlazz]

Crappy FR:

So me and my friends go to this open house last night. When we get there, there is no more beer and by this time I'm completely sober. I introduced myself to everyone and recognized some people I met before. A lot of the girls are introducing me to their friends and such. Everyone is pretty much either blazed or ****faced by now.

It was really akward, because I wasn't feeling it being sober and all. I recognize this one girl who was giving me some IOI's a few weeks ago so I tell her to dance with me. We're grinding and such and all the girls are saying how I'm a great dancer and the guys are saying I'm a pimp, w/ev. But I can't get my **** up! Maybe it was because I was sober, or idk, but it just wouldn't get hard. So I leave and chill back trying to find a loose beer. No luck.

I wanted to get with that one chick, but I just didn't have it in me. I wasn't feeling confident at all. After the pregame drinks wore off, I felt like **** and didn't feel like talking it up.

I need some advice for next time:

Besides pregaming and whatnot harder next time so I am confident and not feeling like ****,

With the girl, what should I have done. I don't know if she was just being friendly or what, but she'd dance with me and such and then go away and dance with her friends. Should I have grabbed her hand and took her elsewhere, sat down and talk it up? Do you have to be aggressive? Like at a certain point, just be like "lets makeout"?

What I hate is being with people overly confident because it brings down my own. I was with a friend who thinks he's the total **** and can get with any girl and says anything. He's pretty alpha, but he doesn't get the hot girls. Last night he hooked up with some short fat girl. I wanted to just makeout with my prospect..she was like a HB7.5, not great, but you have to start somewhere. All the people at the party knew each other because it was all the people from there town. I left without any numbers or anything...not a great night.

I need advice from the experienced. How do you get rid of that down feeling you get at times after you sober up? What if I'm with someone who is much more outgoing than me and louder...and more confident. How do I get around that? At the party, he wasn't a problem, but when we were pregaming elsewhere he was. The whole night I didn't do much talking at all because of the inferiority I was feeling and the basic downness. I felt leftout sort of....really sucky feeling.

Sorry for the long post, thanks

 

[jlazz]

hate to do this, but bump!

 

[Nexxus]

well you might wanna think about arriving at the party with some alcohol already in hand if you wanna get drunk otherwise just arrive earlier

about dancing with girls and not getting hard... ya that sucks, happenned to me last night too and for me grinding is a great way to meet new girls... unfortunately I couldn't get hard once not even with this frickin crazy ass drunk hot chic... luckily i did still manage to make out with one chic...(also hot no worries)

about not wanting to be with other confident guys... be with them... join into their jokes, get into the groove, when you feel the vibe of the party, things will basically come automatically to you... also have more than just one group of friends to hang around... I got like 3 different groups to hang with at each party and half the time I get to know a new group of guys to chill with

about that girl you wanted, if you wanted her you should've been grinding with other girls so she can get jealous and stuff

 

[lugsy211]

Originally posted by jlazz
How do you get rid of that down feeling you get at times after you sober up?
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You mean a hangover?

Alcohol affects people differently and many people get mild headaches or depression the day/morning after. Whatever you do don't drink more alcohol to numb the pain, that'll probably make it worse.
You'll find your own remedy to ease the hangover, personally i take 2 litres of grapefruit juice before i go to sleep and find it does the job nicely.

 

[jlazz]

No, not a hangover. Just when I was pregaming, it wasn't enough. We only had a few beers and some shots. By the time we got to the party, I had a minor buzz when I was meeting people, and then moments later it wore off and I wasn't feeling it anymore. I just felt really bored and didn't want to do anything. All that was left were empty beer cans which pissed me off more. Oh well, next time I'll come ready with drinks

About the girl...it was just a bunch of girls dancing in a circle. I just thought it'd be funny to join in. I was dancing with all of them, but I think after I wasn't able to get my **** up, she moved onto her friends. At the time though I was sober, so I kept analyzing it like a little *****. But at parties, do you have to be aggressive? If you wanna makeout, you basically confront them about it? Not to a stranger, but to someone you met there and someone who's showing interest.

 

[Taviii]

But at parties, do you have to be aggressive? If you wanna makeout, you basically confront them about it? Not to a stranger, but to someone you met there and someone who's showing interest.

Not really aggressive because you must always keep in mind that you are the prize sought after, but you have to know what you want and go for it, if you fail try with other girls at the party.

How do you get rid of that down feeling you get at times after you sober up?

I drink more so that I don't have to deal with it you just had bad luck with the alcohol.

What if I'm with someone who is much more outgoing than me and louder...and more confident. How do I get around that? At the party, he wasn't a problem, but when we were pregaming elsewhere he was. The whole night I didn't do much talking at all because of the inferiority I was feeling and the basic downness. I felt leftout sort of....really sucky feeling.

Try to learn something from this type of people. Learn to be as confident as them so you wont feel inferior.

Why did you want your dikc up?? You just found an excuse to let that girl loose. Don't let that AFC attitude control you!!

 

[jlazz]

When you're grinding, I'm pretty sure the girl wants to feel something in ur pants w/ her ass. Thats the point of the dance. But overall, it was just a bad experience w/ the alcohol. Next time I'll bring some gatorate and vodka in a bottle and drink it on the way there and keep it w/ me incase.