"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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not a field report ....but

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Ok....so sat next to two 18-19 yr olds....one was dressed as a sexy nun and I told het I had sinned....with a smile....she broke out her fake a.k. and shot me and said it was cool....talked to both her and less attractive friend and some dude came by being AFC....not worth mentioning.....he left..y..I had her explaining to me why she chose a nun outfit with a gun...till her train showed up....no number close or anything but I was myself and god didn't want tooo perfect babies....happy haloween..... First weenie report....just go out there and be ur own boss....
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not responding to this situation, but was my post worth a neg-rep?
 

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I think new users deserve a chance (at the end of the day we all started somewhere). It's just when they repeatedly continue to be ignorant that they need to get banned. If they are continuously creating BS threads when they've been told then they need to go...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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adam225 said:
I think new users deserve a chance (at the end of the day we all started somewhere). It's just when they repeatedly continue to be ignorant that they need to get banned. If they are continuously creating BS threads when they've been told then they need to go...
I was going to ask if 99.99% of SoSuavers retarded or just plain stupid, but I didn't want to disrespect anyone on here. If you look at the original poster's profile:

HIGHLIGHT ALL POSTS CREATED BY POSTER.

You will get a highlight of all posts created by said poster.

Under it, you will see the 4 selections of posts, accounted below:

_sideways_ said:
spin plates??
_sideways_ said:
_sideways_ said:
Ive been reading SS for some time now and have been applying some of the tips/advice but I have never been tempted to start an account here and drop my two cents until I read this post. It rang true to me...especially about the part of maybe listening more and faking an interest or something about her "needs or wants" hell IDK. im on that boat also, but i also liked hearing this from the OP..."...I am going to get new plates, somewhere..."
i hope to put some field reports on here soon...
And yours truly, the post mentioned above.

I mai not be a smot man Janny...but I kno wut LUV is.
 

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Fair enough.... They need a chance to be woken up though. That's all I was getting at. Some of us are further away from the truth than others. If he doesn't want to listen, then yeah, of course, BAN. :up:

How does it go.... "You can lead a horse to water, but you can't force it to drink it".

I do follow you frustration. .. believe me bro.
 
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No.

Just fvcking listen and don't try to be a faggot donkey show knight.
 

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Lol, go look in the mirror a little closer you arrogant pr1ck (you might find the real problem there). How the fvck you got all those +reps is beyond me.
 

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_sideways_ said:
Ok....so sat next to two 18-19 yr olds....one was dressed as a sexy nun and I told het I had sinned....with a smile....she broke out her fake a.k. and shot me and said it was cool....talked to both her and less attractive friend and some dude came by being AFC....not worth mentioning.....he left..y..I had her explaining to me why she chose a nun outfit with a gun...till her train showed up....no number close or anything but I was myself and god didn't want tooo perfect babies....happy haloween..... First weenie report....just go out there and be ur own boss....
I don't know how much you have achieved, but this is good! :up:
"god didn't want tooo perfect babies" This sounds like an explanation to yourself as to why you didn't try to get the number. Do you have many conversations where you don't try to get the number?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I don't think the OP is a troll. I think it's a guy genuinely trying.

The "I have sinned" opener was very good.

As for the number, you have to miss some opportunities to fully appreciate the importance of seizing future ones. Going forward, just remember that you probably won't see her again, so you might as well try to get the number.

Just be casual about it. "We should talk again sometime. What's your number?"
 
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