"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Just some advice, work your core as well. I don't see many core exercises in there. Unless you're going to work on your arms/legs, then work on your core once you're happy with your arms/legs.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I'm working my core a lot actually. Squats/deadlifts put a lot of pressure on your lower back, and some on abs. Chinups, situps and HLRs work abs hard.

Squat 3x5x95
Press 3x5x35
Chinups 3x(12-6-5)
Hanging leg raises 3x15+
 

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One of my favorite ab workouts are hanging from the pull up bar and doing leg lifts. It will hurt after a while, if you can't do the leg lifts then bring your knees to your chest instead.
 

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Squat 3x5x95
Press 3x5x35
Deadlift 1x5x115 Not optimal form, did get a little back ache for 1 hour post workout. Arch back more.
HLRs 3x
Flyes 2x10x12
 

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Weak session on thursday (wednesday's session). Might be because I didn't have 200g chicken beforehand, just 100g oats. 1 hour before.

Squat 3x5x95 Back wasn't arched enough. Too much forward lean.
Bench: 3x5x60 Easy.
Chinups: 3x~8-10
HLRs 3x
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Goals aren't important to me anymore. Don't wanna get ahead of myself and increase the weights. All I need to know is if I can do it - And I know I can.

Squat: 3x5x95
Bench: 3x5x60
Deadlift: 1x5x115
HLRS: 3x
Flyes: 1x10x14
69.2kg
 
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Squats 3x5x95 Failed on last rep on last set. Hit safety bars and couldn't go back up. Apart from that, it was easier.
Press: 3x5x35
Chinups 3x12-6-8
HLRs 3x
Cable flyes 2x10x10
69.4kg
 

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Oh hai there. After the last post, I travelled back to Norway and chilled for 2 months. During this time I did gym with my friend about 10 times. After I came to South Africa, Ive gone to the gym about 4 times. Initially I stopped because I couldn't walk for a week, and lost momentum. Yesterday, I FINALLY started my routine again!

My mom actually wanted to go buy weight gainer with me. It's roughly 45% protein and 50% carb. Good to have, makes life easier. Only thing now is that she says she refuses to ever hear the word "beef jerky".

Anyways, let's get on track again. I haven't measured myself since last time, but Im pretty sure Ive lost a lot of weight, Ive lost fat and muscle during this time. I think Im at about 66kg.

Squats: 3x5x70 My legs hurt quite a bit today, and I have trouble walking properly.
Bench: 3x5x50 Quite doable.
Chinups: 2x6
Decline sit-ups: 3x10x~12
Chinups: 1x6
Decent for a 4-5 month break. Excited to get back on track and regain the muscle and get even better!
 

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Had to work out at home today:

Pushups: 3x12
Pullups: 2x6
Situps: 3x12

I still have trouble walking in stairs.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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my personal advice.

Do a lot more pushups and situps. They are very weak at those rep numbers.

Your pullups seem to be at an average level which isn't too bad but the pushup and situps are horrible numbers.

As a 10 year old i was doing close to 50 pushups at a time and could easily do 3 sets of 20 reps.

situps i could probably do twice that number. Keep pushing yourself and do your best to increase the volume/intensity of your pushups everytime. There really isn't much reason not to for calesthetics as its pretty hard to hurt yourself if you rest.
 

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Agreed. Atleast more sets.
The reason I kept the sets down were because I feel very worn out after starting working out again on sunday and therefore am way more worn out than I should be. I wanted to be able to do proper benching on thursday, as I were supposed to do Press today.

The reason I actually dont go higher than 12 is because from what I know, there is less of a benefit from it. What I do instead is that I go down very slowly, so I exhaust myself within 12 reps.

My chinups used to be at 14 reps, but of course they decreased alot now that I didn't gym.

Hopefully my numbers will be back to normal within 1-2 months.
 

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Squats: 3x5x70 Increasing to 75 next week. Taking it slow.
Bench: 3x5x55 Spotted for safety, but no help recieved. Barely made the last rep of the last set.
Chinups - 2x8-5
Decline sit-ups: 3x10x10
HLRs: 1x
 

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Legs don't hurt anymore.
Squats: 3x5x75
Bench: 3x5x55
Chinups: 3x6
Decline situps: 3x10x9
 

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Had to skip 2 sessions sadly.

Squats: 3x5x80 Spent a bit longer on breaks.
Bench: 3x5x55
Chinups: 3x10-7-5
Decline situps: 3x10x8
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Also had to skip 2 sessions again.
Walked to gym today:
Squats: 3x5x80
Bench: 3x5x55
Chinups: 2x13-6
Decline situps: 3x10x10
 

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WHATSUP!
Stopped gymming before exams and didnt start it up over the summer holidays.
Just finished "the 4-hour body". Amazing book.
I'll be undertaking a bench press challenge, increasing my bench by 40kg in 6 months. My bench has just stalled hard compared to my other lifts ever since I started.

What I did today:
Bench Press:
- Power Grip: 1x8x40
- Wide Grip: 2x10x35
- Narrow Grip: 2x10x30
Followed this up with 1 set of 10 reps of the Myotonic crunch. Wow. All other ab exercises seem to be nothing compared to that!
I believe my current weight is about 64kg. bf% at 8 I believe. 7-9 atleast.
Will include 1 day of sqaut + deadlift in my routine too. Do you think that will halt any progress with the bench press?

Glad to be back in a routine.
 

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Bench Press:
- Power Grip: 1x10x45
- Wide Grip: 2x8x35
- Narrow Grip: 2x8x35
Swapped the # of reps this session. My bad.
2x10 of myototic crunch.
 

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Bench Press:
- Power Grip: 1x8x50
- Wide Grip: 2x10x40
- Narrow Grip: 2x10x40
Starting to get heavy. Struggling a bit and longer breaks. Clear sign that I need to eat more!
2x10 of myototic crunch.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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