"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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One more question, I thought about just replying in the first thread I made, but then I realzied no one might read it anymore, so I'm making a new thread.


I was just wondering, do you ppl think its ok if I just don't go for the hook-up, partying, and drinking thing of college life? Some I read make it a standard to say how awesome college is (like hooking up the 13th day). However, for me, I like the idea of finding an ltr rather than ons or something like that. Also I rarely drink and find myself so far not caring that much for the scene.

Or am I just being crazy.

Also one other thing is one of the advice is to focus on making friends first, but then there's the idea the female friend should be avoided... umm... so I'm a bit divided on meeting new girls...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I dont know who said female friends should be avoided. The more female friends you have the more of their female friends you have and also it increases your social value in the eyes of others watching you.
 

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Yep, female friends are great! But it's suggested that you should not befriend girls you are sexually intrested in.

I never was intrested in partying and drinking with college parties, but they sucked around here so nothing lost. Anyway, you should do whatever you are comfortable with. If you don't like going to college parties, then don't. Do what you want. However, I suggest not to exclude your college parties altogether. It might be the only way to keep in touch or getting new friends there.
 

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What if I say that I find a lot of girls attractive... I guess should I just pick the one I like the most and befriend the rest?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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