"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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One more question, I thought about just replying in the first thread I made, but then I realzied no one might read it anymore, so I'm making a new thread.


I was just wondering, do you ppl think its ok if I just don't go for the hook-up, partying, and drinking thing of college life? Some I read make it a standard to say how awesome college is (like hooking up the 13th day). However, for me, I like the idea of finding an ltr rather than ons or something like that. Also I rarely drink and find myself so far not caring that much for the scene.

Or am I just being crazy.

Also one other thing is one of the advice is to focus on making friends first, but then there's the idea the female friend should be avoided... umm... so I'm a bit divided on meeting new girls...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I dont know who said female friends should be avoided. The more female friends you have the more of their female friends you have and also it increases your social value in the eyes of others watching you.
 

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Yep, female friends are great! But it's suggested that you should not befriend girls you are sexually intrested in.

I never was intrested in partying and drinking with college parties, but they sucked around here so nothing lost. Anyway, you should do whatever you are comfortable with. If you don't like going to college parties, then don't. Do what you want. However, I suggest not to exclude your college parties altogether. It might be the only way to keep in touch or getting new friends there.
 

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What if I say that I find a lot of girls attractive... I guess should I just pick the one I like the most and befriend the rest?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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