Shoulders directly over the bar, im sure not if you can notice is in this video from the angle or quality:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEsVwXOw0Ak
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aEsVwXOw0Ak
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Conflicting information.. He says at one point that for the Olympic lifts, keep the shoulders infront of the bar, but for the deadlift you keep them behind the bar.Mistake #8: Not keeping your shoulders behind the bar
You've already read this a few times in this article and it's perhaps the most important thing next to hip position in the execution of the deadlift. Your shoulders must start and stay behind the barbell when you pull deadlifts! This will keep the barbell traveling in the right direction and keep your weight going backward. The deadlift isn't an Olympic lift and shouldn't be started like one.
I did a seminar with Dr. Mel Siff at one of his Supertraining camps (one of the best investments you can ever make!) and we showed the difference between the two positions. For the Olympic lifts you want the shoulders in front of the bar; for the deadlift you want them behind the bar. Period. The amount of misinformation out there about this is incredible.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Scapulae over the bar, shoulders infront.simon said:Rippetoe contacted Dave Tate about that:
"The comments from Westside regarding "shoulders behind the bar" were intended to be cues for coaching, not a biomechanical analysis of the lift. Dave Tate explained this to me in our conversation. He agrees with me about scapula position off the floor, and anyone can look at videos of heavy deadlifts and make this observation themselves. I feel that a good understanding of the mechanics of the movement allows you to form your own cues, and is the most useful tool for developing correct technique.
Thanks to Tim T for the positive response. Thanks to all of you for reading it.
Rip"
From http://www.crossfit.com/journal/2006/11/a_new_rather_long_analysis_of.html
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Most definitely agreeingsimon said:I can't tell if you're agreeing or disagreeing with me. I started deadlifting shoulders infront of the bar quite a while ago and it definitely feels more natural and comfortable.
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hehe, i guess that makes sense. I feel much better now, relief!Warboss Alex said:You ain't gonna screw anything up with 95lbs dude, don't worry about it. It's just you're probably using muscles you've never used before.![]()
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