Noob here...need some quick advice from experienced DJ's

[bigpaul5884]

So heres the deal. Met this girl at the bar last weekend. We hit it off and got her number. So she's very hot like 9 or 10 hot. Now I am pretty good with girls but I have never been much in the dating scene. Usually one night stands and such. But I really like this girl and want to date her. So I have been reading up here and I have the confidence to handle the situation but I have just one question. I am going to call her tonight and ask her to get some ice cream with me later on this week. I like the ice cream idea because I feel its a little unique, its cheap so I can pay for both of us, and its a low stress environment. Now it has been about 9 days and she got my number too so she will know its me calling but what do I do if she doesn't pick up. Do I leave a message, no message. Should I tell her that I wanted to ask her out and tell her to give me a call back? If I do that and she doesn't call back then I have to call again and the ball is in her court instead of mine. How would you guys handle this? Any suggestions would be great.

 

[bigpaul5884]

So I have been thinking a little more. I am thinking since it has been 9 days maybe I should just text her. She is 20 (I'm 23) and I know she likes to text a lot so I am thinking this might be a little easier for her. Just for clarification I have never texted her before, the only contact we have had since that night was she facebooked me the next morning and I sent her a quick facebook message poking fun of her for something, which she replied to. I was thinking about just sending a simple "hey there! how was your weekend?" Go from there and give her a call in a day or two to set up a date. The only problem is what do I do if she doesn't reply to the text. I am obviously not going to send another one because I am NOT going to put her on a pedestal. I guess I would have to wait a day or two and be more assertive with a phone call? Just not sure which way would be better, go ahead and call her or try and warm her up with some texts and then call her. Again thanks for any help.

 

[WhtRbt]

Pretty sure you're over thinking this. Think about it in simple terms. You want to contact her and hang out. Get her to talk to you with a text or whatever, and as soon as you ahve her attention set up a date. The point is to get time with her one on one. Do whatever you want to get this one on one time.

 

[bigpaul5884]

oh I am definitely over thinking it I am trying to control it though. I just don't know whether to call or text. Calling is more personal but she could get a little scared, not so much scared of me but you know how some girls are about first dates. Texting is less formal so it will be easier for her to deal with but also for her to avoid me and play games. I am leaning towards a simple text followed with a phone call if thats not successful.

 

[WhtRbt]

I've found that girls seem to be really into texting. Many will respond to a text and never answer the phone in the beginning.

I would txt something if I were you. When it's the first text I try to leave out information or send something to make her curious. For example you could send 'you should come with!' She will be curious what you are talking about, which may make her more likely to respond. Then ask her on the date. Or you could just say 'hey'. Or make fun of her.

Don't just send 'hey how was your weekend' that's pretty lame. You KNOW she's gonna read it. You just don't know if she'll respond. So I just try to send something that will get a reaction. You could say something like "i'm so mad at you!' and then just turn it into a joke when she responds.

Just send ONE tho. Sometimes they wait forever to respond and you will have the urge to keep sending msgs. Don't do it!

 

[WhtRbt]

Also just wanted to add that when my cell phone RINGS, it usually makes me feel IRRITATED and ANNOYED and I usually silence it, even if it's one of my buddies or a girl. But if I get a text message, I usually get EXCITED to see what it says and who it's from.

 

[bigpaul5884]

I like that idea of sending her a text saying i'm mad at her. Do you really think she will respond though? If she does I think I have something pretty good to reply with. We have only met once and we talked for like 15 minutes and then she left the bar with friends. I saw her though later waiting for a cab and she was bare foot ( I guess her shoes were hurting her feet), she saw me and ran up and gave me hug actually, and then ran off to jump in the cab. So if I send that text and she responds asking why, I was going to say something like, "I saw this tiny brunette waiting for a cab and I could have swore it was you but no luck, I should have been tipped off when she was wearing shoes haha" what you guys think about that, poking a little fun at her and also letting her know I wish I had ran into her.

 

[DonGorgon]

20 year olds are horny and loose and if they like your look they will F you in under 7 days... BUT you have to act like you want to F them if you act like you want to date them and be nice they will make you wait while they F guys from the night clubs they go to...

You are moving to slow and being to cutesy with icecream... tell her to come too your house and hangout with you, show her your cool stuff in your room then start KINO..and BOOM... oh give her some icecream after she Fs you not before..