"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Non-western girls different?

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I am chatting with a girl from an Asian country and I am actually put a little off because after 15 minutes of talking she is "like you are so handsome i love you with all my heart", and I am thinking "please calm down" etc.
When I was in Pakistan when I was 12, a 16 year old Indian hottie wanted me in her bed. I was very popular with the girls because they thought I was so cute and nice.

And when I later tried being a bit teasing and ****y and funny with some Pakistani girls, they were looking at me like "what is wrong with you?".

So are non-Western girls different in their behavior?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Cinamon

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Lol. How old is this girl? I think there are two possibilities behind her behaviour.
1. She is young, naive, and brainwashed by bollywood style cinema, where everything is romance, and love at first sight; or
2. I'm guessing you are from an affluent western country, in which case she is probably thinking this could be my ticket out if India, Pakistan, Sri lanka of wherever.
A friend of mine went out to Bangladesh for a holiday and got away with all sorts with the girls cuz they thought he would marry them and bring them back to the uk, and he isn't even good looking. I guess it's keep your eye on the goal, and not the route. You take to get there.
 

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I've never dated a Pakistani or South Asian, but in my experience I found East Asian girls to take relationships a lot more seriously and have had some misunderstandings the first few times I dated Oriental women. It has happened to me a few times where I think we are casually dating, as is the norm in Western culture, but they seem to think it is a committed relationship. They tend to get a lot clingier than Western women. Usually the "****y and funny" does not work with them, they're more old fashioned and want a man who behaves with some (but not all) characteristics of an AFC, i.e. more committed, tell her you like her, etc.
 

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Western women are more masculine, yet they have a nasty entitlement attitude. Overseas they're just grateful you don't beat them for raising their voice, which they'll immediately apologize for as soon as you look at them sternly.
 

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Asian girls will tell you they love you after like 15 minutes. It doesn't mean a whole heck of a lot.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Cinamon said:
Lol. How old is this girl? I think there are two possibilities behind her behaviour.
1. She is young, naive, and brainwashed by bollywood style cinema, where everything is romance, and love at first sight; or
2. I'm guessing you are from an affluent western country, in which case she is probably thinking this could be my ticket out if India, Pakistan, Sri lanka of wherever.
A friend of mine went out to Bangladesh for a holiday and got away with all sorts with the girls cuz they thought he would marry them and bring them back to the uk, and he isn't even good looking. I guess it's keep your eye on the goal, and not the route. You take to get there.
My flat mate has done the exact same, just went over and used their naivity against them. Just don't get tied down with any of them because as much as they may seem like they like you, it's often not the case.
 

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You don't know her situation, she might see you as her ticket out of a boring life and to go on an adventure. She might find western guys cute too. When I was in Japan, girls would just come up to me and ask me out... it was crazy! If she's "in love" with you already that's a warning sign that something about her home life is not ideal.
 

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A lot of Pakistani girls are cute, and really sweet if you ever dated one. I had dated one, she was a 9.5, 5'4", looked Caucasian, really pretty. She wanted to take me back to Pakistan to show her country, but I never got around to it. College, work, life, etc.

But it depends. Asian(as in Chinese) girls are weird though. VERY friendly, but terrible when it comes to dating, etc.
 
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