So I'm dating this girl, its serious but its not a committed relationship yet. We are not committed because she lives about 4 hours from me so we don't see each other very often but we will see each other again in college when it starts this month. Theres a lot of sexual tension and I know she loves me and yeah I like her i'm still seeing if it can escalate. For now we're just kind of seeing how we get along and if everything goes well and there's still attraction she will be moving in with me by the summer.
The problem is I feel the b**ch has played me out. She had been telling me about some guy who was stalking her online, this has been going on for about 2 weeks. Yesterday she told me the guy is driving her crazy changing screennames and sending her all kinds of insulting messages, then while talking about it she confessed to me that the reason for the guy stalking her was that she had cybered with him and showed him her bra on cam.
I basically didnt know what to say, she was saying me that I'm probably going to hate her now and she even cried because she misunderstood me when i told her I didn't think she was that type of person, she thought I looked at her as a slut now. I didn't act mad at all, I just told her I didnt think she would do that and right away I told her i had to go. She's really not that type of girl, I've known her for months now and she's waiting for the right guy to lose her virginity. So she's basically a good girl.
Now I don't know what to do. Is cybering cheating? I don't really wanna think about what was exchanged in that convo, but I would think its enough to be considered cheating. And I want to know if this is something that could escalate, although she did seem to feel bad about it. On one hand it was only a bra, I see girls in bikinies all the time, but the action of showing it to somebody in a flirtatious way makes me think twice about it. Should I act unemotional? maybe tell her its fcked up and just forget about it? or is this a big deal, like cheating? I'll appreciate any thoughts.
The problem is I feel the b**ch has played me out. She had been telling me about some guy who was stalking her online, this has been going on for about 2 weeks. Yesterday she told me the guy is driving her crazy changing screennames and sending her all kinds of insulting messages, then while talking about it she confessed to me that the reason for the guy stalking her was that she had cybered with him and showed him her bra on cam.
I basically didnt know what to say, she was saying me that I'm probably going to hate her now and she even cried because she misunderstood me when i told her I didn't think she was that type of person, she thought I looked at her as a slut now. I didn't act mad at all, I just told her I didnt think she would do that and right away I told her i had to go. She's really not that type of girl, I've known her for months now and she's waiting for the right guy to lose her virginity. So she's basically a good girl.
Now I don't know what to do. Is cybering cheating? I don't really wanna think about what was exchanged in that convo, but I would think its enough to be considered cheating. And I want to know if this is something that could escalate, although she did seem to feel bad about it. On one hand it was only a bra, I see girls in bikinies all the time, but the action of showing it to somebody in a flirtatious way makes me think twice about it. Should I act unemotional? maybe tell her its fcked up and just forget about it? or is this a big deal, like cheating? I'll appreciate any thoughts.