"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Non girl related topic, I get job interviews, but no offers

Dhoulmagus

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I've gotten 5 interviews so far and haven't gotten any offers yet. I'm a supply chain major applying for entry level supply chain jobs. I will admit, I was pickier in the past, but I have woken up lol. I do lack confidence, but idk what to do about it. Telling me to just be confident does not work because I do not know how to be confident in the first place. Is it more related to that or just bad luck?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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dustmuffin

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I've gotten 5 interviews so far and haven't gotten any offers yet. I'm a supply chain major applying for entry level supply chain jobs. I will admit, I was pickier in the past, but I have woken up lol. I do lack confidence, but idk what to do about it. Telling me to just be confident does not work because I do not know how to be confident in the first place. Is it more related to that or just bad luck?
IDk just keep trying. It took me two years to find a job. Start looking people in the eye and greeting them. That is an easy way to build confidence. I lost my confidence and am building it up. I understand you brother.
 

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It's a process and just like dating you'll get better with practice. Take a deep breath and accept that it may take a while to find a good job. If you're tight on cash maybe get a temp sh*tty job.
 

Dhoulmagus

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IDk just keep trying. It took me two years to find a job. Start looking people in the eye and greeting them. That is an easy way to build confidence. I lost my confidence and am building it up. I understand you brother.
2 years? What's your major? I have two interviews next week and have no confidence lol.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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