"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Non-female habits in my so-called "DJ" lifestyle

Alphathree

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- I check myself out in the mirror with my shirt off a _lot_ ... making faces from 'serious' to 'playful' to 'scolding' to 'curious'

- I do crunches, push ups, leg raises, and squats before bed (depending on which muscles aren't sore)

- I take dance lessons and go social dancing. I dance with both guys and girls.

- I try new things. On my list right now are both skiing and skating, neither of which I have ever really been good at.

- I read a lot. Anything from history to mathematics to pickup-related things like genetics and evolutionary psychology.

(Incidentally, I started reading the latter two on the advice of PUAs but ended up taking a genuine intellectual interest in those areas... so now I read outside of the core PUA topics (sexual ornamentation, mating preferences, etc.))

- I iron my clothes more often and more meticulously than your grandmother.

- I take showers. Then I check myself out again.

- I go clothes shopping, usually alone, and hit girls at the stores. (I also buy nice shirts :D)

- I keep a log of my thoughts under my bed on just about any subject: observations, trends, specific people or events, goals, beliefs

- I'm always on-guard in my head. If I catch myself making quick, snappy movements, I take a deep breath and relax. I also edit out any negative self-talk ("I could never get her", "He's better looking than me", etc.) and immediately reinforce the opposite belief.

Some of those sounds retarded, I know (hey, that's negative self talk :D) but these habits took me over the course of two years from a nerd like you wouldn't believe to a respectable young man.

Anyway, please share your habits... maybe I'll steal a few of them. :D
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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theNEWDJ

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that sounds gay as hell but whatever works
 

Eccentric

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Alpha, that's cool.

I personally haven't asked for a womens opinion at a store lately.

But I know for Christmas my mother and grandmother get me clothes. My sister goes with them to pick everything out because she senses my style (shes 20, so shes got a good idea). Wouldn't you know all the shirts, sweaters etc she picks out get me compliments?

I mean my style isn't bad, but this is a girls 6th sense, matching outfits. :cool:

Since I was AFC, my whole life has changed. Taste in music, clothing, politics, the crowds I hang around with, women I'm attracted to, hobbies, etc.

A totall make over for the better.
 
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