"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Non-female habits in my so-called "DJ" lifestyle

Alphathree

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- I check myself out in the mirror with my shirt off a _lot_ ... making faces from 'serious' to 'playful' to 'scolding' to 'curious'

- I do crunches, push ups, leg raises, and squats before bed (depending on which muscles aren't sore)

- I take dance lessons and go social dancing. I dance with both guys and girls.

- I try new things. On my list right now are both skiing and skating, neither of which I have ever really been good at.

- I read a lot. Anything from history to mathematics to pickup-related things like genetics and evolutionary psychology.

(Incidentally, I started reading the latter two on the advice of PUAs but ended up taking a genuine intellectual interest in those areas... so now I read outside of the core PUA topics (sexual ornamentation, mating preferences, etc.))

- I iron my clothes more often and more meticulously than your grandmother.

- I take showers. Then I check myself out again.

- I go clothes shopping, usually alone, and hit girls at the stores. (I also buy nice shirts :D)

- I keep a log of my thoughts under my bed on just about any subject: observations, trends, specific people or events, goals, beliefs

- I'm always on-guard in my head. If I catch myself making quick, snappy movements, I take a deep breath and relax. I also edit out any negative self-talk ("I could never get her", "He's better looking than me", etc.) and immediately reinforce the opposite belief.

Some of those sounds retarded, I know (hey, that's negative self talk :D) but these habits took me over the course of two years from a nerd like you wouldn't believe to a respectable young man.

Anyway, please share your habits... maybe I'll steal a few of them. :D
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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that sounds gay as hell but whatever works
 

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Alpha, that's cool.

I personally haven't asked for a womens opinion at a store lately.

But I know for Christmas my mother and grandmother get me clothes. My sister goes with them to pick everything out because she senses my style (shes 20, so shes got a good idea). Wouldn't you know all the shirts, sweaters etc she picks out get me compliments?

I mean my style isn't bad, but this is a girls 6th sense, matching outfits. :cool:

Since I was AFC, my whole life has changed. Taste in music, clothing, politics, the crowds I hang around with, women I'm attracted to, hobbies, etc.

A totall make over for the better.
 
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